To say "What goes around comes around" to her ?

[MissMap]

Someone I have known well for many years, is selfish and attention seeking, she delights in other people's misfortune and often bites the hand that feeds her. She is not a good friend to the people she classes as her friends.

She is not happy. So much has gone wrong for her, but she does not learn from her experiences and keeps repeating the same mistakes.

She is machiavellian and loves to plot and plan the downfall of others.

Normally this back fires on her.

Would it do any good to say "What goes around comes around" to her ?

[LineRunner]

As you appear to be talking about me, probably not...

[Yama]

No. Why would you delight in her misfortune?

I don't believe in that statement anyway. What did ill children do to deserve what life has dealt them? It's a silly phrase.

[LolaRennt]

I think the op means her plotting back fires, and the friend hardly desereve pity from the sounnds of it.

Y would BU to say anything as she surely wont care though. She sounds like she needs dropping as a friend though

[TheMagnificentBathykolpian]

Far better to say what you said in your OP

"Please don't come to me for sympathy. I know you are not happy, but you are selfish and attention seeking. You don't learn from your mistakes and just keep repeating them. You delight in other people's misfortune and turn on people who try to help you. You are not a good friend to the people you class as your friends. It is foul of you to enjoy plotting to hurt other people."

I mean, if this is the person that she is - she sounds vile and a dose of reality might be well overdue.

[AgentZigzag]

I wouldn't bother, the manipulative people I know like this wouldn't take any notice.

Better to keep tight boundaries with her and not get involved in the power games.

[kaid100]

I would just try and have as little dealings with this person as possible. Apart from anything, sharing this home truth with her would probably just make you the next target of her little games, out of spite.

[Tchootnika]

Fine, as long as you're happy to hear the same from her when things screw up for you (if she's still talking to you, that is...)

[WhereYouLeftIt]

I think you'd be wasting your breath. I doubly if she'd understand the concept.

[Orbinator]

Why on earth are you still involved in this person's life?
Maybe get your own and stop worrying about hers.

[xstitch]

YAB a bit U. Mainly because what goes around rarely does come around. People who treat others like rarely get their come uppance. IME the worse they are the chances of something bad happening to them in return reduces.