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AIBU?

to feel at the end?

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FeckedOffWithWork · 30/06/2011 18:58

I'm not going to do something stupid, so don't worry but i'm sooo fed up. I've had about as much as I can take.

I'm having problems at work. In so many words I get bullied and 6 out of 7 of my colleagues are lazy and I end up taking the biggest workload because if I didn't then it wouldn't get done. I can't talk to my manager because she's one of the lazy ones. Also, they do an awful lot of bitching about me and about other people. I hate it so much I feel physically sick come Sunday night just thinking about another week in that place. It's also a 2 hour commute each way and i'm tired of that too.

My homelife is getting me down too. I never have any money. My ex is being a twat and I just seem to be very short with the kids. I asked DS2 this morning to come and give me a cuddle and he replied 'ok, but don't get mad with me and shout at me mummy' :(

Now to top it all off i've been given 15 hours overtime next week at work because someone is ill and one is on holiday. No asking me if it's ok, just slapped right there and expected of me so next week instead of my 30 hour week it'll be 45 hours. Fuck knows where i'll get the childcare from for the extra hours. Knob heads

Alsoooo, I am looking at other jobs because i'm so unhappy in this and I got offered an interview next week for my dream job, very close to home and good pay, good hours for childcare and I asked manager for either the day off or to start on a later shift that day weeks ago before the rota was done. She said she'll try her best. Rota just came back and i'm working all day on the interview day. I questioned manager about it and she said it was a bad week for being a princess and asking for certain days off and certain shifts so i'm stuck with not being able to go to my i'view. I tried to rearrange i'view but because head office are travelling from London to do them, they're only available that day. I am so pissed off right now :(
Just wanted to rant, it's ok if no one replies, it just feels good getting it out of my system!

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WhereYouLeftIt · 30/06/2011 19:01

I'd take not just the interview day off, but a couple of extras too. Not just to be bloody-minded, but also because you sound seriously stressed and I think you need to go to your GP?

DO NOT ALLOW THEM TO CUT OFF YOUR ESCAPE ROUTE.

rosie1979 · 30/06/2011 19:02

YANBU! Please phone in sick on the day of the interview and GO!!! :)

Happymm · 30/06/2011 19:03

So sorry to hear that. I don't think legally they can stop you taking time off to go for a job interview (though someone who knows more that I is bound to pop along soon)

Do you have a HR department you can talk to-or your manager's manager?

Happymm · 30/06/2011 19:04

I'd also say throw a sickie, go get that job, then take great delight in telling them to fuck off to fucksville :o

Good luck.

FeckedOffWithWork · 30/06/2011 19:05

Thank you WYLI and Rosie, but if I do take the interview day off as a sickie they will know and i'll get in trouble when I return. I'm praying I can win the lottery before I return to work on Monday so I don't have to go back. Ever!

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TheFlyingOnion · 30/06/2011 19:05

sack them off, chuck a sickie and get out of there...

it will only get harder

floosiemcwoosie · 30/06/2011 19:05

Go to the interview and tell them you cant do overtime or

If you can, phone in sick for the week, spend some time with the kids and take some time for yourself

WinkyWinkola · 30/06/2011 19:08

How will they know? Just take the day off sick and go to the interview. If they call your house whilst you're out, say you were at doctors. Do it. It sounds hellish.

PeopleCallMeTricky · 30/06/2011 19:09

You have to call in sick and go to the interview. No option. Your dream job could be yours. I know you feel like you have no options, but you have.

trixie123 · 30/06/2011 19:11

Given that you already asked for the day off, it would be suspicious if you were suddenly sick that day so it would be better to take 2-3 days off. Sounds like you need it anyway and will allow you time to prep for the interview and spend some quality time with the family. Best of luck x

WhereYouLeftIt · 30/06/2011 19:12

Is getting in trouble when you go back so much worse than the loss of this potentially wonderful job? Really, what can they do that's worse thah what they're already doing to you?

I wouldn'tt normally be so blase about sickies/work, but you do sound at the end of your tether and I don't think seeing this job opportunity disappear would be very good for you at all .

moogster1a · 30/06/2011 19:12

They are legally obliged to give you time off to attend the interview.
They don't have to pay you for the time, but must let you go.

WhereYouLeftIt · 30/06/2011 19:13

Maybe - go to the GP, explain your problem? You might end up signed off for a week monthfor stress anyway?

TheFlyingOnion · 30/06/2011 19:14

if its that bad and you really are at the end of your tether, go to your GP and get him to sign you off for a few days with stress.

sorted...

FeckedOffWithWork · 30/06/2011 19:14

Ok girls, you have persuaded me to phone in sick on the interview day. I can't not go and always be thinking what if...I had more money, what if...I had lovely colleagues who were my friends, what if...I could spoil the DC and me, what if...we could afford to move and rent a house with a garden, which would be my dream come true and it could easily happen if I got this new job. The new job is more hours but only round the corner, so less commute and more time with those little jellybabies of mine :) Oh, the possibilities!

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TheFlyingOnion · 30/06/2011 19:14

ah, x-post whereyouleftit

SuePurblybilt · 30/06/2011 19:15

I agree, go to GP and they will probably give you more time off than one day.
Do not miss your interview.

FeckedOffWithWork · 30/06/2011 19:17

I will only go sick for a few days round the interview though. Longer term sick, like a week would land them in the shit with already 2 people down, me down as well would be too much for them.....unfortunately. A week off to combat my mental state sounds lovely but un-do-able.

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FeckedOffWithWork · 30/06/2011 19:18

Moogster, the manager is breaking the law by not allowing me the day off for my interview?

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Whorulestheroost · 30/06/2011 19:23

Feckedoff, I know that you don't want to but you can self certificate yourself off for a week anyway. Best of luck with the interview, like you said you will always regret not going :)

unfitmother · 30/06/2011 19:23

You must go to the interview!

verytellytubby · 30/06/2011 19:26

No matter what. You need to go to the job interview. Your present work sound horrible and I would have no qualms phoning in sick.

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plupervert · 30/06/2011 19:34

I agree, you can't be in worse "trouble" when you come back than you are already. What else are they going to do to you?

Bitch at you some more? Yawn. They do this already.

Dump overtime on you, which you need to arrange and pay childcare for? They've done it

Exclude you socially? How can they do it more?

In fact, it sounds as though the only thing they haven't done is physically assault you, and lazy, bitchy idiots like this are likely to be far too cowardly to do any such thing.

OP, are you in a union? Even if it's not strong or recognised at your workplace, it is something to turn to.

Good luck in the interview! I don't want to upset you by even suggesting that you might not be sucessful, but it would be really good for you to see how a normal office works, and how normal people work. You sound very ground down, with no faith in human nature, and that is the worst place to be psychologically.

Again, good luck!

Want2bSupermum · 30/06/2011 19:37

When I need time off work I never ask but tell them I am unable to attend work. I often work 60+ hr weeks but it is planned in advance. I give my all at work but my employer respects me. Yours does not so I would take an assertive position and tell them you need that day off and if they need you to work overtime you need at least 3 weeks notice so you can arrange care for your children. If they say anything tell them your family and the safety of your children comes before work.

Do not miss your interview because your boss is being a twonk. I would tell your boss you have a medical appointment that can't be changed hence you need the day off. There is sod all they can do about it. If the boss challenges you then go straight to HR and ask what the policy is regarding taking time off for medical appointments.

jugglingwiththreeshoes · 30/06/2011 19:38

If it's a legal requirement perhaps another option would be to say you are going to go to the job interview (as it's a job you really want) You could say it's more local and would be easier without long commute, especially with your DC's to think about. You're being much to loyal. They don't own you. Say no to the over-time too - that's really unreasonable.
GP's are often very sympathetic to stressful life situations. It really is affecting your health. See your GP if it would help you feel more authentic and supported, and you decide to go down the sick leave route.
But whatever, by hell or highwater - go to the interview and give it your best shot !

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