(I've name changed just in case my friend recognises me I know she's been on MN in the past since I've posted some private stuff in Relationships recently.)
I was chatting to my best friend after tea (on the phone - we live a few hours apart since I moved), and she mentioned that her son - my godson - has had some bad news for the summer work experience thing he was supposed to be starting in the first week of July. He was so looking forward to it, he's been talking about it for literally months since Xmas, a friend of his mums runs his own firm and had promised 2 months of work shadowing for putting on his uni application... but due to redundancies/other reasons there's no place for him now. So no work experience placement any more.
Basically he wants to apply to uni, but couldn't when he left school due to a number of factors (shaky situation with BF's ex, there was a court case, basically GS saw a lot of what DV went on as he was a teenager and if affected him quite badly, he has taken a couple of years out to just get back to normal and get his confidence up again, he'd not taken his a-levels so had to re-do them - not failed, he just had a terrible time of it when the exams were going on).
Annnyway, he's thinking of applying to uni next year, but the course where he wants to do it is highly competative, and there are only 4 or 5 unis that do the course in the UK (he doesn't want to move away completely from his mum just yet while he studies). UNfortunately, apart from getting amazing a-level results (which he did eventually get) and work experience placements, I can't think of any advice to give the poor lad that would help him achieve what he wants to do.
Due to the competition for the course and his preference to get into THAT uni, I have a feeling that without the work experience there's nothing else that can make him stand out - the uni doesn't do interviews, it's not a course where they accept portfolios, etc.
I did my degree in business over 20 years ago, but she thinks I might have a better idea of other stuff he can do over the summer which would help his application next year. But i don't have any ideas for her! I can't think of anything else to add "wow" to his application! Having a degree myself doesn't help here - AIBU to point that out?
AIBU to feel so so sad, that here I am seeing a hard working, honest but unconfident lad with my own eyes, who has achieved so much despite all the odds being against him, and I can see that he's probably not going to get on the course he desperately wants to, because of the work experience promise being a let down?
What can I say to my friend or her son to console them? I guess I can advise that he prepares for rejection with a plan to work for a year (unlikely that he can get a job in his course field tho) and just try again?
AIBU to see the newspapers constantly talking about the feckless youth of today, work shy etc - yet here I am feeling heartbroken that they never focus on the teenagers of today who want to get on, they just don't have the opportunity or 2 parents to support their dreams!
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... to feel so sad for my best friend's son and his shitty luck?
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londonshoes · 23/06/2011 21:24
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