Over a year, I've tried to make friends with American Muslim Women in London (I too am an American Muslim Woman who has married a British man and now I live in London). My attempts have failed pretty badly. I often feel that many people who attribute religious views to their lives can at times be very very judegmental and horribly mean. I always try not to be judgemental, and let general absurdities slide. I do want muslim friends, and I would like more company...Although, in reality I'm starting to think that all religions are pretty much equal, maybe I should pick another religion.
The Christian and Jewish/other women of other or no faiths are ridiculously nice!
For the past year, I've been friends with one specific woman who has been quite kind (in the other thread she is named Sunshine). She's a nice and happy person and I do like her.
However, I hate hanging out with her alone because she brings up the fact that she's in that specific clique and they are all very nice and supportive of her(they have all been evil/vile towards me)and when I go to one of her events, everyone is generally invited to another party the next day by another member of this clique and everyone talks about the next hang out party.
On Saturday another woman I've been trying to be kind to was blatantly taking rsvp's infront of my face for her party the next day! A few months before she invited me and then disinvited me to a bbq because (she blamed the weather, but I figured it was because she didn't want me there anyway).
I Didn't take it too seriously as I'm quite used to this terrible treatment. I think I've only taken it for soo long because my parents taught me to be nice and kind to everyone and give everyone chances. At this point though, I'm done with being the schmuck.
However,Saturday was the last straw, I felt dismissed and belittled and for once I just figured, fuck it it--I love my life too much to deal with people like this. I felt like I did make a good effort, but also felt like maybe these women all met each other at some convention for 'angry wives'. I often think of them as the 'angry beaver brigade'.
Objectively though, I am a few years younger than the youngest member of that group (3 years and 12 years younger than the oldest member) and I am the only one with a child. Sunshine is the only one who is openly admitting to being on fertility treatment. So maybe they are just depressed about fertility/being older?
I do have a concurent thread with a much different scenario running that does include the mystery of someone trying to pitt me against my husband.
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eandz · 20/06/2011 13:02
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ILoveYouToo ·
20/06/2011 13:30
Why have you posted this twice? 
It isn't any easier to understand the second time, either...
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