Will try and be brief! DS is 2.5. ExP and I split when he was 10 months, due to his cheating. He has been a real arse at times since then with regard to contact (not turning up, lateness etc) but after a talk just before Christmas has been making much more effort and things have much improved. He now sees DS for 2 days a week, for 8 hours each day. He is not in a position to have him overnight due to living arrangements, but tbh has never asked for overnight contact so don't even think he wants it. As a consequence I have very little opportunity for a social life, but DS comes first and I don't mind.
So today he asks to have DS for an extra hour, til 7 instead of 6. I didn't question why, I just said yes that's fine. Then at 5.40 he texts and says 'finished earlier than expected, is it ok to bring DS back at 6 as normal?' I said yes, as having DS isn't an issue to me, but it has left me seriously annoyed with exP. I feel like he should be glad of an extra hour with DS, not ditching him cos a better offer has come along. Why would he turn down that extra hour?!
He gave me a mothers day card from DS, and I had bought DS one to give (DS has no concept of fathers day so not for his benefit, only got it as exP gave me the one on mothers day so I felt I should) but now I think if you're not going to act like a proper dad, I'm not going to give you the f*ing card! Being a dad isn't the 10-6 experience he seems to think it is. Bringing him back and acting like the extra hour was a pain rather than a bonus is not something a dad should do, is it?I should add that although DS is only 2.5, bedtime does not come into it as he never goes before 9, which exP knows.
DS won't know the difference if I don't give him the card, but I want to not give it as a sign of how cross he has made me today by offloading DS at the first opportunity. I asked him what was so important he'd rather do than have an extra hour with his son but got a blank look and no response. Do I give the card, or not?
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L8rAllig8r · 18/06/2011 18:42
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