To want to scream at people "she is 2!"

[girrafey]

AAAAhhhh just want to rant really.
I have 3 dc, dd1 is 6 and has been big for her age since she was born. She was 6 this month and wears age 9 clothes. Is tall and slim and beautiful.
Ds is 3 and slightly under for weight and height but catching up.
dd2 is tiny. She has not really grown much since birth.8.15lbs.
All medical problems ruled out, she is just petite. She however rules my 3 dc and is full of character and a complete dare devil.
She has just gone into 9-12 month clothes, yet is 2.5. So yes i agree she does look funny when doing certain things.

But to the old woman who screamed at me in tescos - she is 2, and wanted to walk around lugging the loaf of bread, i didnt make her!!!! It's what toddlers like to do!

To the mum outside school.- Yes she is old enough to follow dd1 and ds on the trim track at school! she does it every day, and is more than capable, you didnt need to lift her off saying it is not for babies! and then argue that she doesn't look 2, and was i sure when i explain!

To the air stewardess - yes i am sure she is 2, yes i am sure i paid for her own seat! No i dont think she will be better laying down in a sky cot!

To the woman in the playbarn. - Yes my dd2 is dry in the day, no i didnt give her psycological damage by doing it under the age of 1, and yes i mean she is 2!!!! So she was perfectly fine having a treat of some gummi bears aswell!

aaaahhhhh i do know how old my dd is! why do people look at me like i am lying! Had a bad week with this, and i know it is a little thing but with everything going on at the minute it is getting to me! Rant over.

[belgo]

'But to the old woman who screamed at me in tescos - she is 2, and wanted to walk around lugging the loaf of bread, i didnt make her!!!! It's what toddlers like to do!'

what happened in tescos?

[PrincessScrumpy]

We have the opposite problem - dd1 is very tall and quite advanced with talking etc. She's now 3 but from 18 months onwards people have always thought she's older than she is. The other day in the supermarket a lady said to dd "Shouldn't you be at school?!" DD wonderfully replied "No, I'm only 3. I don't get to go to school until I'm 4 and I'm four in February!" Well, saved me saying anything. People always have an opinion and being a mum people feel the right to tell us their opinions.

Laugh at their ignorance and enjoy your family x

[shivster1980]

YANBU It must be very annoying!

[flyingspaghettimonster]

Wow, she is 8.15lbs? Wow, that really is tiny... I can't quite imagine a 2.5 year old that size... it must be very annoying how people react, but also hard for them not to, because she must really look like a baby... Maybe you can get some hand painted tops in her size with 'I am 2' on them?

[BreastmilkDoesAFabLatte]

Yes, what happened in Tesco's?

My DD is 18 months and sounds equally tiny. I recently had several of the softplay staff watching jaws dropped as she scrambled out of my arms into the 3+ area and launched herself squealing and giggling down the big slide.

[belgo]

I read that as being 8lb at birth; 15lb at age 2.5. Which is still very small.

[5inthebed]

I get the opposite with DS3, he is the same age, but been wearing 3-4 and some 4-5 clothes since January. People don't believe me and have questioned me many a time when he is is in his pram.

Most annoying, just ignore.

[girrafey]

Belgo, we have a teco express near us, we go in there 3-4 times a week so she knows it well. Nipped in there to get some bits for lunch. I was carrying basket, put some bits in, dd2 asked to help. It was too heavy now for her to drag so i said she could choose something to carry. She choose the bread. Now i admit it was a big loaf and it did come from her neck to her knees, but it is what she choose.
started walking to till when i remebered i had forgot something, so told dd2 to keep walking to till. (no que, can see it and my friend behind it waiting for us) so she keeps toddling. i turn around grab item and then catch up to her. As i am drawing level old woman marches up to me demanding i put dd2 in the pushchair. i ask why, and she says" it is digusting to use my baby to help me!" I swear i just stood there with mouth open.
"But she is 2, and likes helping" i say just as dd2 reaches till and swings loaf up onto counter!
"Dont lie just to make yourself look better" she yells at me.
Friend calls over, no she really is 2, and old woman yells at her not to be deluded before walking out!

[belgo]

[yukoncher]

LOL wow, I think you actually met the devil. Dear god. :( Please don't be upset by such a monstrous viscious old woman, euck

[bidibidi]

You've got to develop a thicker skin, OP.

[girrafey]

yes belgo was correct! my bad typing she is not 8lbs now!

PS and 5ITB yes i had similar with dd1, she is always mistaken for older. people do expect more from them!

Bmdafl- sounds like her and dd2 would get on well, she got so many looks on holiday, she went on all the rides she could at disney and wanted to be with her siblings and not adults. she is a thrill seeker to.

[aldiwhore]

YANBU at all.... infuriating. I don't think its just because your dd is small though, we all know our kids' ages and abilities yet if someone sees us doing anything they wouldn't do suddenly they assume you're simply a jerk who has no idea about anything. Grrrr. YANBU at all.

My youngest likes to drag loaves of bread around the store and he's big and 3. They're bagged, he's doing no harm, it stops him getting bored, he feels like he's helping, I will pay for the loaf and really, rolly eyes and tuts just make me want to do something outrageous to really make the judgeytut tutters tittle tattle.

[nickelbabe]

stupid mad woman in tesco's.

what right has she to comment, anyway?

My friend had the opposite problem - her DD was big for her age, very tall, and once when she was 3, a woman had a go at my friend saying that DD's speech was awful for that age, and she should get it checked out.
thinking the DD was 5 or 6.
My friend put her in her place.

[Rowgtfc72]

DD is 4 and as big as a 5/6 yr old. Try telling the people on the bus giving us evils whens shes tired and having a paddy that she was only 4 in March and is still a baby even though she make look like a spoilt six yr old ! Just repeat insults in your head, it works for me .

[anewyear]

My 12 I Belive, is tall for his age he is 12 1/2 and at 5'5'' or thereabouts, tops the majority of his class mates by 2 or 3 inches, as well as some of the year 8s.

Most people have an opinion on things they know nothing about, they're all loons IMO, except me of course

[girrafey]

yes i think that it is, i dont think people are always being rude when stopping us/ making comments. I understand they were trying to help/ dont understand etc.
But to stand there and argue with me when i explain, thats the bit that makes me mad!

Though i do sympathise with those whose dc are expected to be doing more as they think they are older. Pleased when people stand up for them/ explain etc.

[ChildofIsis]

I too have a tall, articulate daughter.
I have no end of conversations which end in me trying to convince ignorant, usually; old people that dd is 4, after all I should know I was there at the birth.

People have such preconceptions don't they?
If our kids don't conform to their ideals then it must be our fault.

I've had the 'why aren't you in school?' thing too. Fortunately she usually told them that she was too young too.

[SardineQueen]

Gosh that sounds awful OP, you poor thing. I don't have a very thick skin and it must be terribly hard having total strangers round on you.

I have it the other way. DD1 is big (DD2 is heading the same way) I get "she's 3 isn't she a big girl!!!!!" with a bright smile in at the beginning of any potentially difficult exchanges.

Could you buy her a huge badge with "I am two" on it and get her to wear it all the time?!!

[SardineQueen]

That doesn't read very well. I mean I more or less announce that she is 3 to anyone I speak to who I think is going to head down a tricky path, to head them off at the pass. I do it with a very bright smile like this

[oldraver]

My DS was/is also very small for his age but I didnt really have too much of this, a lot of "oh reallys" when I asked his age but usually I got "oh isnt he clever/advanced etc " as they always assumed he was 2 years younger than he was but with the verbal skills of his age.

[fairydoll]

but don't babies who are 11,12,13m like carrying stuff round shops.I remeber DD2 carrying those 4 pint milk bottles at about a year old, so I really don't get what the wooman was on about!

[WeirdAcronymNotKnown]

It's so annoying isn't it. I've never had any overt comments luckily.

DD is really tall, she's 4 next month but some of her clothes are age 7 now. She's always had trouble with some speech sounds, and although she's caught up now, people often looked at her like she was really stupid because she couldn't pronounce her words 'properly' :( thankfully she's never picked up on it and is very confident, a real chatterbox.

DS (21m) is pretty big too, he was nearly 12lbs at birth and although he's slipped back in terms of centiles (I think he's about 75th now) he's still a right chunky monkey so I wonder if we'll have the same problem. Could be even worse for him as he's been quite behind in terms of speech.