to make a mix cd for dh's birthday...

[jbcbj]

a quick background - about 4 or 5 weeks ago dh told me that he thought he no longer loved me and that our marriage had been "cold" for about 18 months. in context, we have a 2yo dd (I went back to work about 18 months ago) and now a 2 month old ds. he thought i no longer loved him but didn't say anything so that i could reassure him, and now that has damaged what he feels for me. we are trying to work through it and obviously there are a lot more things that have been said, but it is his birthday this weekend and i want to do something special that once again tells him how much i love him in the hope that it might bring up what appears to be very low self esteem if he takes the normal hormonal lack of sleep daze experienced by most new mums (and then mums of 2 little ones) as me not loving him. i have told him what he means to me but was wondering how to show him. music has always been important to me (and to him) - WIBU to make him a mix cd of meaningful songs? is that totally cheesy and naff or could it be effective?

[cookcleanerchaufferetc]

It is slightly cheesy but very lovely! I would be pleased to get a meaningful CD. But if you comment that XX song was your first dance at your wedding, dont get miffed if he can't remember - that is a bloke thing rather than a not sure if I love you thing!

[Sylvaniasandwich]

Ahhh, your post has touched me. I think that is a lovely idea and I hope you work things out.

[kennypowers]

I'd be very touched if mrs powers did this for me. Unfortunately, we have very different tastes in music i.e. I like good music and she likes tat.

[SenoritaViva]

Lovely, especially if you relate it to all the happy times you've had (specific events). It takes time, effort and thought which is the best kind of present. Could you also include some photos?

[MrSpoc]

why not make him the C.D then go out for a meal together. Sounds like you both need too.

[NoobyNoob]

A really lovely idea. I've also done this for DH, my Dad and my DS.

I hope things work out OK.

[COCKadoodledooo]

Aww I think it's a great idea. Hope things work out x

[mummakaz]

My dh made me a mix tape when we broke up around 11 years ago. It very special to me and I still have it so I say go for it

[jbcbj]

thank you all - i couldn't decide whether it was naff or not, lovely to know that it would be a nice thing to do. i was thinking in terms of a meal as well, although it would have to be with DS as well (he's still tiny and very often breastfed).

i'll get going on it then!!!