Do you live your life as seperate parts?

[knittedbreast]

Not sure how to word this but,

Are all aspects of your life intermixed or do you live out the different roles completly seperately?

If you live your life segmented do you think this has a negaive affect? and why do you do so?

[janinlondon]

Interesting question. My life is compartmentalized completely. Has some negative effects (no one really knows me as a total all round individual), but some positive effects (I don't take my work home).

[lesley33]

My work and home life is totally compartmentalised. I don't socialise with work colleagues at all except on specific work dos. But my home/social life isn't compartmentalised.

[BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack]

Yep, I have a work hat, a home hat and probably a friend hat, lol............

At work I am a born organiser, at home I seem to be a bit of a nag (according to DH, lol) and with friends the life and soul.

Mm, to get a mixture of all three would be good.....good post!

[AbsDuCroissant]

Work life is completely separate from the rest. I might go to a few work functions as I have to, but otherwise I don't socialise with colleagues. I'm nice to them and friendly (obviously), but I like to keep things separately. Always have. Same with friends, I never mix friends as it is normally a disaster

[create]

Work and home is very separate (even though I sometimes work from home )

I am a different person at work - I can put on an act of being a lively professional, life and soul, chat with anyone etc, when it's necessary for work, but I find it much harder socially.

Home and social life is the same thing AFAIC

[knittedbreast]

i dont feel like whole either, im either mum or worker. i also have a religios side that my dp and children arent involved with. this makes it very hard to live my life as i would like, i want my childen to think for themseles and not go along with what i say.
also whenever i am at work i always seem to say really stupid things and i dont know why, cant stop myself either! i have a lot of interests but no time or money tp pursue them sadly.
i think part of why i keep moving is to start living my life the way i want to but it never works, i always feel like im hiding something or will get found out and i put this down to not being a whole.

i thinks it definately a negative thing

[seedlessgrape]

I think it's very sensible to compartmentalize the various aspects of one's life although it's difficult to avoid overlapping sometimes, ie

Work
Mother
Girlfriend
Sister
Daughter
Friend

Some are intertwined but otherwise never the twain shall meet.

[Punkatheart]

I initially read that as parts of my body having adventures - which is a bit absurdist Russian novel.

The answer though is yes, absolutely. I am serious with my writing, flippant in Mumsnet (sometimes) dark and moody on a horror writing site, stern with my child when necessary, playful with my other half.

However to the very core of me is still the angry little activist who was PUNKATHEART.

[EdwardorEricCantDecide]

we have always lived seperate lives and it never had a negative effect until we had DS then his life continued and mine stopped. we are now trying to correct this as i've had enough.

HTH

[knittedbreast]

soory to hear that edwardor :(

[Punkatheart]

I hope it can be solved, Edwardor. You clearly are sad about it. Sorry to hear it.

[EdwardorEricCantDecide]

sorry just realised my post is completly irelevant i thought you meant separate from DH/DP/UH? ignore me.

[EdwardorEricCantDecide]

to answer the original question yes i also have work hat, mummy hat friend hat etc. think its quite natural to do that and behave differently depending on who your with.
although i do have one or two "work" friends who cross over to out of work friends.

[ScousyFogarty]

Knitted, its an interesting question, but difficult to answer.

I have a routine, which keeps some things in "seperate parts" But I suppose our lives are a bit of a mish-mash

Churchill said Its an enigma wrapped in a problem. .But he did not say it on Mumsnet

[Punkatheart]

SepArate, people.

Sorry sorry nervous nazi spelling tic...

[knittedbreast]

shaking head at punkatheart....

scousy, sorry but what do you mean by that

[MumblingRagDoll]

All seperate. Work, my family and my fiends are not really mixed much...a few close friends are involved in my family life...but not many.

My work is very personall and school...I go everyday and chat to other Mums...but they're not friends.

[onebigchocolatemess]

I can sometimes go a whole day with only 1 kiss from my DH

I feel like this is down to us each having our 'routiene' and jobs to do to keep the day moving and forget/ get wrapped up in our separate worlds in the same house

easily slipped into me thinks