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Myself and my mother have a sometimes strained relationship. She has always been very vocal with her criticisms of me and likes to tell all and sundry!
She has always liked my DH, even going as far as to say ' you dont deserve a man like JXXX' and 'How did you end up with such a nice bloke like JXXX'
She regularly behaves like a child. Case in point when I gave birth to my daughter. She bought a car seat and told me she would pick me up from hospital. The evening after my daughter was born she wanted to bring her friend P up to the hospital. My DH and I dont really like this woman as she is just plain nasty. I said to my mother that I wasnt having visitors - true as the only people who were there were family, including mother. Even my best friend didnt come up to hospital because I felt awful. My mum took the hump and refused to give DH the car seat. Leaving me stranded at hospital. I was so angry but DH encouraged me to let it go.
A few weeks ago it was my mothers 50th myself and DH organised it. We arranged the venue, food, guests etc. At the party her friend P commented on a party guest. Asking me who it was and how we knew them? I replied it was DH cousin's husband. To which she replied " That explains everything"
She ignored DH all night. When I told my mother about this she lost the plot saying 'Dont tell me who to be friends with"
She then continued to send vile texts about me and DH. Saying he is brainwashing me and how I have changed. Referring to DH as 'evil squaddie'
How he has no friends (kind of true but doesnt bother me). How he should be off his anti-depressants etc etc. She even got my brother involved and now he is not speaking to me.
What started as an innocent gripe about her friends treatment of DH and his family has blown into full on war with her refusuing to speak, see or talk to me because I 'criticised' her friend.
I even found out on FB she has been bad mouthing us to relatives and telling people that DH is brainwashing me!
I am so angry but aibu to be angry in the first place?
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AIBU to expect loyalty from my mother?
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whamfan · 23/05/2011 21:13
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