Smacking a 10 month old? AIBU?

[pickledparsnip]

Talking to another mum last week who told me that she had to discipline her 10 month old son for the first time recently. He wouldn't stop wriggling when having his nappy changed/being dressed, so she slapped him on the hand.

I was speechless!

AIBU to pretty bloody horrified?

[LynetteScavo]

YANBU.

There was a parenting book I read when DS1 was little which advocated a slap when babies wriggled on changing mats.

[indiechick]

No YANBU, I really don't think you should be disciplining a 10m old baby.

[Beamur]

YANBU
Babies wriggle, they aren't being naughty. ffs.

[ManicAnnie]

YANBU. Ridiculous. Said mum needs to read a book on basic child development. Silly woman.

[plonker]

[maristella]

physical chastisement for a 10m old?

WRONG

[DuelingFanjo]

yanbu :(

[pickledparsnip]

I know. She began with "I'm not sure what other people think of smacking...." I didn't know what to say. Wish I'd bloody said something now.

[saffy85]

YANBU.

You can't discipline a 10 month old baby, it just doesn't work. She lost her temper and smacked him. She shouldn't have done it, her son will keep on wriggling while having a nappy change- it's what they do at that age.

[pickledparsnip]

Makes me so sad that a baby was told off for simply being a baby

[pickledparsnip]

Well according to her he hasn't done it since!

[CucumberMuncher]

YANBU

That is awful. Surely quite pointless as well at 10 months.

[Morph2]

Bloody hell i would be whipping the hell out of my 12 month old i can't remember the last time i actually got him to lie or even sit on the changing mat never mind keep still. Strangly enough yesterday and today he has started saying 'good boy'- well at least its sounds like that and we are always telling him what a good boy he is but in your friends book in would not be.

[CucumberMuncher]

ah x-post

[FabbyChic]

I'd like to slap the woman silly, what a nasty bitch.

[pickledparsnip]

Oh heck should I have said something?

[MarioandLuigi]

I thought a friend of mine was bad enough - she has a naughty step for her 13mo.

[Firawla]

YANBU
if she mentions it again i would say something

[pickledparsnip]

Fabby I wish I'd told her how horrified I was.

[Firawla]

mario i have come across people with naughty step for those ages too! they justify it that 'oh my child's understanding was much higher than their age' but so many people all saying it, they can't all be! i think its ridiculous

[gabid]

Yes, you probably should have said something. One of these situations that play on your mind - I wish I had ....

[BertieBotts]

My ex smacked DS' hand when he was 10 months old for "pinching" (he was gripping while crawling). He only did it once!

[BertieBotts]

Ex only did it once. Not DS!

[davidtennantsmistress]

:( how awful, maybe about 2 naughty step but not before, their understanding is no where near at that age, all they understand is they've been hurt by their care provider.

next time if he wiggles tell her to change him inbetween her legs - Ds did this, my legs would be out straight & he'd be changed in about 2 minutes - not once was he smacked.

[saffy85]

A naughty step for a 1 year old?! Mad.

I'm sure your friend's 10 month old will remember to never wriggle again during a nappy change now she's disciplined him. bloody berk. Her that is, not you OP.