Hi all, I have a very good friend who is a lovely person. She has 2 children, a baby boy of 4 months and a 4 year old daughter.
Her 4 year old child is in my opinion very controlling, demanding and watchful- she has major tantrums over the slightest thing and the 10 minute journey to nursery often takes more than half an hour due to the childs constant tantrums and refusal to walk.
Her mother walks on egg-shells and has told me that she dreads it if the slightest thing does not go her childs way due to her violent moodswings.
She has told me that she thinks her child is spolit but does not like to discipline her as she gets too upset and her DD gets harder to deal with.
Her daughters behaviour has been like this since she was tiny and in my opinion its partly because she has been given too much control from an early age- i.e-she controlled what her parents ate and whether or not her rain cover went on in torrential rain.
The other day she had an hour long tantrum because someone kindly opened the door for her mum in the shop and she wanted to do it.
Anyway her friends at her nursery including a lot of mutual friends children have started to notice and have started to avoid her- with one child calling her a spolit brat ( which I do not condone btw).
Some of my friends have expressed concerns that they dont like their children being around this child as their children start to copy her ways!
Her mum has said to me that she feels her child is being picked on and has told her child to stick up for herself not realising that the other children/parents are avoiding her because of her behaviour.
I have bitten my tongue until now but feel that maybe I should try to guide her as I have noticed that other parents are beginning to avoid her.
I am not saying that my parenting is perfect but I can see the potentional problems that this may cause my friend and her child!!
Do I say nothing or stick my neck out and try to gently guide her and if so what do I say Help please.
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Nando95 · 16/05/2011 13:14
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16/05/2011 13:38
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