this probably should go under "parenting" but I'm feeling irrational so need to hear some points of view.
Dd(15) met a boy online months ago. We always felt uncomfortable about the communication and reminded her that he might not be a 17yo but a dirty trucker instead. She organised a meet-up in London while she was staying with my sister. To be fair she was (somewhat) sensible - took a friend with her and met in a very public place. While staying in London she mucked my sister about a fair bit by not being where she said she was going and not coming home when she said she was... and it was only a couple of nights afterwards that she told me about it and then (probably) that he was coming to our home the next day. He has been up twice now.
Today I was meant to be out, dh was off to play cricket so dd had been arranged to babysit. At lunchtime there was a knock on the door... and the boy was stood there. Dd hadn't told us he was coming. I asked if dd knew he was coming (yes) and, later, whether he knew she was meant to be babysitting her sister (no). My immediate reaction was to send him back on the three hour journey home... but I didn't.
Dd is also meant to be going to a party tonight with her friends. I know the family are away but dd hasn't told us this. I also know that alcohol has been organised. Until now, I was going to trust dd with this sleepover - she has been to other parties and, so far, has been sensible with drink. I have resisted the urge all week to call the other mothers and drop them all in it.
I am expecting now to find out the dd's bf is also going to party / sleepover and will be about tomorrow. I know the invitation was extended to him.
I'm not sure what I am worried about - dd not telling us what is happening in her life? Dd being dishonest? Dd having a bf? Dd met the boy online??????? I'm wound up and concerned that discussing any of this with now with dd will result in me being very unreasonable.
AIBU?
to feel like a sh!t parent
kiwibella · 07/05/2011 13:29
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