Hello, I'm new to Mumsnet (although have "lurked" recently, doing research) so I don't know all the forum rules/ niceties/ conventions... please be gentle with me.
I had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy last week, and went through emergency surgery. I didn't even know I was "pregnant" because I had been having what seemed to be periods. It was all very sudden, unexpected and, frankly, terrifying.
Anyhoo, the AIBU question relates to the support (or lack thereof) from my best friend.
She works really hard, and long hours. I understand and appreciate this. She called me the day I had surgery and we had a brief conversation, then she was going to come round and see me last Friday, but cancelled, via text, due to work. She said in that text that she might pop in on Sunday evening, but there followed radio silence until last night when I got a brief text from her, apologising for not being in touch and saying she had been busy at work doing really long hours.
Last year she had 2 MMCs. it was a horrible, painful time for her. She had been TTC for over a year before the first MMC. I visited her a lot, called her, emailed her and gave her loads of support throughout both MMCs and after.
I wasn't actually TTC although, ironically, my husband and I had just agree that we would start.
So, I can see that she is genuinely busy, and that perhaps being with me at the moment could bring back difficult memories and feelings for her, but we've been friends for over 25 years and I really, really needed her this week. Even a text saying she was thinking of me would have been helpful.
As I type this I am feeling increasingly angry with her. I don't want to fall out with her over this, so am not sure how to respond to her text from last night.
I'm also aware that I am not quite rational at the moment, as my HCG levels were still 25+ on Tuesday this week.
Thoughts? AIBU or AIBOS?
Thanks for listening.
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Support after an ectopic pregnancy
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LulaFortune · 29/04/2011 16:15
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