Ok so i have been with my partner for almost 4 years we are due to marry in 4 months, we decided to move in together a few weeks back in preparation for married life, obviously this has caused a financing change as my benefits stopped.
So he earns 22k a year and i told him he has to contribute to the bills now he lives here all i get now is ctc of £144 and cb of £33 that wont even cover my rent and council tax so i called all the company's that i pay bills to got the lowest payment schemes ect and told him he needs to pay £470 per month and he is complaining that he could rent somewhere on his own with bills included for less than that ! i have 2 children one has ASD so my small saving grace is that she get dla once a month but only low rate so £150 a month which really doesn't go far , He says i should split the bills straight down the middle but he is on so much more money than me, I also cant work at the moment due to a muscle condition that looks set to last another year before i can return to work,
I could probably scrimp to pay 50/50 with him but then i would have no money for myself at all im really scared when we get married that he is not going to pay his share and we will loose our home ect , I have always had my own money and i dont know if i could handle not even having £5 of my own to do as i pleased with, what should i do tell him its £470 or your out.. or just give up my bit of independence and pay half straight out a little advice would be great x
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brunettemum83 · 21/04/2011 08:55
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