More of a WWYD really.
Simon and I have been best pals for over 30 years. When we were teenagers we were as good as part of each other's families and I knew both of his elder brothers as acquaintances when we met at Simon's home. His parents are lovely and still now will often ask after me and vice versa although now Simon and I live some distance from each other. I'm a lone mum, Simon has been living with a lovely lady for 15+ years. I've met her a handful of times and we chat on the phone when I call and she's the one to answer it.
Simon visits my DDs and I for occasional weekends - he comes alone as his partner is severely allergic to my dogs. His partner is fine about this, encourages it too when he's driving her nuts!
Si's just mailed me to to tell me that one of his brothers, whom I haven't seen for 20 odd years, is getting married and he is to be witness, His partner hates weddings and finds his family rather hard work so has ducked out of joining him so Simon's asked me to be his guest at the wedding.
I'm flattered but a little worried that it will cause offence somewhere along the line... not with his DP as he wouldn't do that to her but I have yet to find out if he has asked his brother if he may bring me instead of her - and of course I wouldn't dream of accepting if his brother or wife to be is not in agreement. Truth be told I'm worried that he might have just told his brother that's what he is going to do! Will cross that one when I get an answer from Simon.
Assuming that his brother and wife to be are happy with the fact that Simon has asked me to accompany him would IBU to accept the invitation? Or might it be viewed as improper, given that Si has a partner and that I haven't seen or spoken to the groom for 20 odd years and have never met the bride? This is to be a small-ish wedding I believe and not a prim-and-proper highly conventional one but nonetheless I have no idea of the etiquette for these things and as much as I'd be delighted to accompany my best friend I'd hate to cause raised eyebrows or offence to either family.
All opinions most welcome, thanks.
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Vallhala · 18/04/2011 22:58
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