DS is 3. He's generally very well behaved although he does get boisterous at times (don't they all?)
DH's father sadly passed away when DH was a teenager and MIL has remarried. Step FIL never bothered with his own child and she now harbours a lot of resentment for him- but she does like all of us so she comes to see us, etc. She's really lovely.
MIL and SFIL rarely bother with our DCs. They see them one afternoon a week. Considering DH's family are all very close (and have always lived in each other's pockets, including aunties, uncles, etc), this does cause some tension. SFIL is usually at work on the afternoon that MIL does have them. They also live in the next street but never call round. However, they do act like doting, wonderful GPs at family parties, etc. They also go on about how much they love the kids- when it suits them.
Today DS came home and was creating a bit. When they'd gone, I asked him why and he said that SFIL had smacked him because he tried to put his own seatbelt on. I assumed, at first, that he was telling porkies. However, he was genuinely upset about it and repeated the story a few times- same account every time.
I rang my mum and said what had happened and as i was saying 'he can't just hit my children', he walked in the door. He doesn't seem to like me much anyway, despite the fact i've always made an effort. He looked a bit sheepish, said he'd forgotten to give us our calpol back and I said 'just put it on the side'. I continued talking on the phone (which I wouldn't normall have done, but was quite flustered and also cross). He then walked out.
When I put DS to bed I said 'you did have a good day though didn't you?' to which he replied 'no, grandad smacked me and upset me.' So I'm pretty certain he's telling the truth.
I asked mum what I should do and she said she thinks it's out of order but there's not a lot I can do.
But I'm really concerned and in those first couple of hours of angryness when it keeps running through your head and you can't really process it properly.
So... I need some advice.
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To not want FIl to hit DS?
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TotallyandUtterly · 13/04/2011 20:35
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