PILs haven't bothered with DC in months. They've never been especially fussed and prefer BILs DCs. We've raised the issue with them several times and each time they make an effort for a few weeks coming to ours and letting us visit their house (they only live around the corner!!) but then it tapers off again, they'll arrange to come over and will cancel because they're "busy" or "ill", same for if we arrange to call round at theirs, but then we'll find out afterwards that they were actually visiting BIL or had taken his DCs out for the day.
As it currently stands they haven't seen DC since September. For his birthday and Christmas they arranged to come see him but then never did, we didn't find out they'd cancelled until gone 9pm both times and DCs gifts were left in our porch. There's been no reason for them not coming and when DP brought it up in October he was told they were busy but would make time to see him soon. We've had no contact from them since and our calls aren't returned.
This afternoon when we got home there was a bag of Easter eggs in the porch "love from Nanny and Grampy" on the tag.
AIBU to send them back? DP wants to send them back with a note telling them to shove them up their arse but I think that's going a bit far but I can see his point about returning them. They haven't bothered with DC since September so DP wants no contact, DC is at an age now where he's starting to question why Nanny and Grampy don't want to see him and DP doesn't want him hurt by their random dipping in and out of his life especially as they've had multiple opportunities and multiple second chances, he thinks enough is enough. They can be very vindictive though and we live in a small community, I know they'd tell everyone that I'm blocking them from seeing their grandchild and I can see them getting nasty over it. At the same time though DP is firm on his view of it and I agree that it's not on.
Advice anyone?
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SalisburySoup · 12/04/2011 18:49
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