I've always been told girls are worse then boys when it comes to bullying etc, but from my experience so far boys are far worse

[carriedababi]

Yesterday at a country park playground a little boy who looked about five was blocking the bottom of the slide for ages
no parents to be seen
then after blocking the slide for about 10-15 mins he said to this boy that was waiting at the top of the slide
"don't you dare come down the slide, or I will crack your skull"

[carriedababi]

The threated boy just said ok then and stood there waiting

in the end, dh had to tell the other boy to move as he was booking the side

didn't see anyone looking out for this boy at all

[Goblinchild]

He was 5?
I'd have warned him to move and then got a larger child to slide down.
I certainly wouldn't have let him be a bossy little egomaniac for 5 minutes.
However, that is not bullying unless he's there every day doing the same thing to the same children, it's just inappropriate territorial behaviour.

[carriedababi]

Yes I understand bullying is repeated behaviour, was just trying to summerise for the title iyswim

I suppose I mean nasty behaviour towards others

[notprEGGersjustchocolate]

He was 5.

Very very small still. Maybe he has older brothers who say that to him? Or an older sister?
Maybe he has a bad home life. Maybe he is just repeating what he's heard elsewhere. I don't think you can judge boys as being much worse from one wee 5 year old boy.
That's the parent's fault anyways, no?

I think boys can be mean like this, but tbh girls can be just as bad!

[cookcleanerchaufferetc]

I think girls can be bitchy from an early age. A kid my my daughters class was bullied for being fat at the age of 5!! Girls also do the whole "xx is my best friend, you're not" or give a list of 3 best friends and exclude the other girl.

Bullying sucks at any age and I just don't understand why schools can't have more power to do something .... Though not sure what the something is!

[notprEGGersjustchocolate]

Did you have sisters op? Mine was pretty nasty as a kid. But our dad had left us and she had a shit load of emotions to deal with.

[GypsyMoth]

but you get this all the time....hardly unusual behaviour,just one of those things to shrug off

thing is,the boys would be more likely to run off together to play,leaving the slide incident forgotten,however,girls,well thats where they probably wouldnt be as likely to! girls drag things on and create drama. with boys its less drawn out

i have 2 girls and 3 boys and find this happens

[Newgolddream]

So you have came to the conclusion boys are worse bullies than girls because a 5 year old was a bit nasty?

[fatlazymummy]

I hate the way people are so negative about girls. Both boys and girls are capable of bullying, bitchy behaviour and so on. IMO it is picked up from their parents. If girls get the message that it's ok to put other females down then they will do the same thing.Just as if boys get the message that it's ok to throw their weight around and be aggressive then they will do the same.

[treas]

When 'they' say girls are worse bully then boys I think it is because when boys have confrontations they tend to be physical but over and done with. Girls on the other hand tend be play the insidious long hate campaign and involve others in their bullying.

[Morloth]

5 year olds talk shit all the time, a kid saying that to DS1 would have been sent flying as he accelerated down the slide.

One kid being an annoying little git does not a bullying problem make.

[Goblinchild]

Morloth, another fan of the dynorod solution.

[treas]

fatlazymummy - I don't feel that I'm being negative about girls, I'm just writing from the experiences my own dc have had and the dc of their friends.

[carriedababi]

It's not just this one incident that's lead me tobelieve it

just general experience of being a parent, and things I've seen over the last few

years have really shocked me

yes I totally agree it's the parents fault, didn't seem like anyone was watching him at all

[carriedababi]

I have 2 db no ds
but a cousin who was like a sister to me

i think it's just general misognistic crap aboutgirls

[GypsyMoth]

so why label boys??

[Goblinchild]

All children can behave in antisocial ways, but girls and boys tend to choose different ways of displaying it.
If they are not educated in what is and isn't acceptable by the adults and older children around them, they may remain egocentric and driven by their own wants and needs.
Boys are not worse or better than girls, they are all individuals with different personalities, different life experiences and different levels of parenting.
So you work with what you have.

[carriedababi]

I'm not labeling. Boys at all

just shocked at things I've seen over the past few years

[Morloth]

Most of the little kids I know seem nice enough, you get the odd annoying brat but we must have been very lucky to not come across any of the really nasty little sods. Male or female.

They all have their moments, but so do adults, kids just don't have the same level of ability to think before they speak like adults do.

[wannaBe]

There are different types of bullying. Boys tend to be more physical.

girls tend to be more psychological/bitchy/insert term of choice.

The difference though is that girls tend to not outgrow the bitchyness - you have only to walk into most school playgrounds to see that women seem to follow on where they left off as girls.

[GypsyMoth]

stewie,sorry that was to op!

[Morloth]

I suspect that is becuse a cutting remark is not quite as frowned upon in polite society as a fist to the face.