only i think i have upset/offended ger.
she wanted to come round today, normally fab because i LOVE spending time with her, but i had plans.
so suggested tomorrow, but she is busy in the morning, i am busy pm.
She has a new baby and no routine as yet, we do (my child is school age) and i dont want to disrupt that.
I dont think that she "gets it" that i have my child to cater for and cant/am unwilling to drop this.
She is laid back and pretty much a free spirit, me im quite a control freak, but still want to continue our after school routine without interuption.
its pick up, library, tea, shower ,telly reading book, read story then bed.
she doesnt put her baby to bed till after 11pm (last feed) so when she wants to come round late afternoon/evening, we have stuff to do.
Gahhh dont want to offend but she hasnt replied so think ive upset her with excuses.
AIBU?
to not drop everything for my pal?
cherrychoo · 03/04/2011 21:09
We do the routine thing, so I understand where you are coming from. Do you have to go to the library every day though?
I always say to people, 'we have to be home by 5pm' (5.30pm if I get us a takeaway) so we can have dinner with daddy and bath, stories, bed by 7pm, but I'm not sure your child needs an identical routine from 3pm every day. Could she come for a couple of hours before tea? Or even stay for tea but understand that your DCs need your attention during bath/story/bed time? Lots of my friends are happy to read a mag or play on facebook whilst I put my kids to bed. If I'm lucky they've made me a cuppa to come down to 
What Gracie123 said is a great idea. Its good for children to deviate from their routine sometimes too, helps them become more tolerant and accepting. (I was a routine freak but both DS and I are happier now I'm not )
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