to ask would you be disappointed if you didn't get a card/ present for motherday

(260 Posts)
AuntiePickleBottom Mon 28-Mar-11 22:21:30

more of a discussion really.

over the school this seems like a hot topic, and some mums expect alot from there OH to deliver cards and presents.

as long as i get a card i really don't care

Not bothered really

I'm a single parent and I will be getting a card. I know this because my DS told me he made me one at pre-school today but not to tell anyone because it's a surprise

BelleDameSansMerci Mon 28-Mar-11 22:23:47

I will get the card my DD makes me at nursery. That'll be all. I am disappointed by this every year. I don't expect a present but a card and some flowers would be nice.

lockets Mon 28-Mar-11 22:24:09

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

I don't expect a present. Going out for a meal or DH cooking so I don't have to would be nice though.

Beamur Mon 28-Mar-11 22:24:16

DP forgot entirely last year. Given the strop I threw I think he might remember to 'help' DD with a card this year.
I don't want much, a card would suffice - but I would like it to be remembered.

BitOfFun Mon 28-Mar-11 22:25:02

Not remotely. I prefer to feel generally appreciated than to get a card once a year.

vonnyh Mon 28-Mar-11 22:25:08

Wouldn't bother me at all.

TheNumberTaker Mon 28-Mar-11 22:25:17

Not fussed, it's a ridiculous, contrived, Hallmark sponsored pile of bollocks, like Valentines Day.

supadupapupascupa Mon 28-Mar-11 22:25:20

Yes I would be gutted.

We celebrate mothers and fathers day as well as birthdays, anniversaries and valentines. If any were forgotten then it would be very upsetting.

However not everyone does celebrate all these things, and in that instance then I wouldn't be upset.

Lavitabellissima Mon 28-Mar-11 22:26:38

It's my first one but I'd be happy with a card and a cup of tea brew

LifeIsButtercream Mon 28-Mar-11 22:27:18

Not really, I'm a single parent and I'd be very surprised if not-quite-2 DD went out and bought me one!

I get smiles and hugs from my little girl everyday, means a million times more what any card could smile

LoveMyGirls Mon 28-Mar-11 22:27:31

Dh suggested I go to the hairdressers as my pressie which I'm chuffed with (I hardly ever go, last time I went was August last year, I usually ask my dsis to do it for me but she does it for a job so I don't like to ask)

Dd's are old enough to sort cards and I would hope they do show some appreciation for me.

bosch Mon 28-Mar-11 22:29:37

Think dh believes mothers day is invention of Hallmark so doesn't really go in for it. Shame really as I think mothers day is legit and it's fathers day which was invented by card manufacturers...

Not expecting much though likely ds3 will be making something at nursery. Ds1 and 2 had opportunity to buy something organised by school pta but both too uninterested and I didn't really want to have to persuade dh to organise them.

However, am staying overnight at friends on sat night, so have unwittingly organised my own lie-in which is pretty much all I really want! And boys will be pleased to see me when I do roll in mid afternoon, which is as good as it gets!

lazylula Mon 28-Mar-11 22:29:38

I would be happy with a card, especially if it is home made! Up until last year dh has spent a fortune on boquets of flowers for my mu, his mum and me. Last year I finally managed to convince him that it was a waste and we got them some flowers each from a supermarket for a fraction of the cost, same as I got. This year it would be lovely if dh takes the day off and we can have a family day, oh and a cup of tea in bed!

shakey1500 Mon 28-Mar-11 22:31:08

Some appreciation would be nice though not necessarily by way of cards or flowers.

However, I am hoping that it's NOT a repeat of last year where DH presented me with a cd of "Classic 80's Electric Pop" after having had a discussion the week before about music where I expressed an intense dislike for anything that was 80's electric pop....

maighdlin Mon 28-Mar-11 22:31:26

i will be majorily upset. mainly because i got nothing at all last year and made the effort for fathers day.

goingmadinthecountry Mon 28-Mar-11 22:31:31

The first year I had a baby dh made a video out of old cine films for his mum. I even did the soundtrack. I got absolutely nothing - not even a card, as a mummy of 4 months.

Move on 17 years and 4 kids.......

I think he's learnt his lesson. PILs aren't talking to me right now as I (very slightly) upset their beloved (nearly 50yo) dd at Christmas. Have been shallow enough to ignore my 4 dcs ever since.

Could bore you all about the fall out, but like me you'd probably think it was all a bit of a fuss over nothing.

So much as I think dh should want to give his mum something as a fantastic grandmother/mum, she isn't. My dd3 is so gorgeous, I hate to wake her up every morning because I'd rather cuddle her. She's beautiful asleep. How can mil ignore a 7yo for 3 months, especially when we pass her house every day on the way to school?

Just show me how much you love me, children. I'll be standing by the side of the pitch supporting rugby as is my Sunday norm. Restaurant in the evening.

MrsSchadenfreude Mon 28-Mar-11 22:32:50

I never do. DH says "You're not my mother." DDs don't do anything at school for Mothering Sunday either.

The "You're not my mother" works both ways. His mother is not my mother, therefore I don't order her flowers. When he asks "what have WE sent my mother for mother's day", I merely say that I have sent my mother some flowers. His mother usually gets hers on Monday or Tuesday.

It isn't a Hallmark invention is it or surely it wouldn't be such a moveable feast (assume it's linked to Easter dates somehow?)

Barbeasty Mon 28-Mar-11 22:35:17

Yes. Last year I was pregnant and DH was very embarrassed when his mum gave me some flowers because "he hadn't bothered".

DH seemed to think that he didn't need to do anything until DD was old enough to do it herself. I would like a token of his appreciation!

I also wasn't too impressed when he suggested I cooked a nice meal for his mum... He has now at least agreed that he will cook.

coolascucumber Mon 28-Mar-11 22:35:21

Each year I buy cards from the children to me and give them to my DH to give to the children to give to me. I also buy his mother's card. Otherwise the day would pass without comment.

FreudianSlippery Mon 28-Mar-11 22:35:56

Yes I would, and I expect DH would be if we didn't bother with fathers day. Agree it's a hallmark holiday but who cares, to us it's an excuse to spoil each other a little

Very, very slightly disappointed. DH has trained me to have low expectations and I have trained him not to surprise me, so it is all my fault really. He has asked me what I want for mothers day, but my suggestion of him looking after DD for a whole day has gone down like a lead balloon. And I forgot his birthday (I remembered until the day, then forgot on the day and lost his cards) so I don't think I can really expect much. The main thing I have for mothers day is a fantastic baby.

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