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AIBU?

To be allowed to be ill sometimes

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mrsmillsfanclub · 22/03/2011 10:48

I am lucky that I rarely feel really poorly, but I came down with a nasty virus two days ago and have felt like I've been hit by a truck, achy muscles, high temp, bad cough. So I stayed in bed most of yesterday. Dh keeps coming upstairs to talk about trivial nonsense (ignores my blank gaze), teenager is like a lost soul and has asked me 10 times when I think I'll feel better.
Just gone downstairs and it looks like a bombsite. Washing up waiting to be done, loads of clothes needing to be pegged out and bathroom needs cleaning. I am itching to do something, but feel so weak and ill I can't.
AIBU to expect a bit more from everyone?

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LadyThumb · 22/03/2011 10:57

You're a wife and mother - you're never allowed to be ill. If you are ill it is extremely inconvenient for them that aren't, and you are expected to 'think of England' and carry on as normal.

If you are bedridden they will bother you all the time with questions like "where's the bread" and "what's for dinner"!!!!

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mrsmillsfanclub · 22/03/2011 11:10

You are so right Ladythumb. Thats just the feeling i'm getting from them-it's an inconvenience.
Just struggled downstairs to make a hot water bottle and dh asked if I was making coffee-he'd love one. I can't write down my reply-its too early for that sort of language on here!

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LadyThumb · 22/03/2011 11:30

I went into hospital last Thursday for an operation. They let me out in the evening, and I was too zonked to ask who had had what for dinner. I made my own cups of tea that evening. Friday night we had fish and chips. I made my own cups of tea all day. Saturday I started cooking and doing housework again.

It's like man-flu - woman don't catch it, whereas men just die!

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MissVerinder · 22/03/2011 11:39

Mrsmills.

There are rules about this, you know.

  1. You are not allowed, under any circumstances to be ill.
  2. Should the unthinkable happen, all housework/cooking/domestic matters will remain suspended until you are well enough to deal with it.
  3. You will be checked every 15 minutes to try and get you out of bed make sure you are alright.
  4. No matter how ill you are, DP will be more poorly than you. Over the weekend, which conveniently means that he can spend all weekend in bed, undisturbed as you will be taking care of things downstairs.


YADNBU. Stay in bed as long as you possibly can (ie until they run out of clean stuff and someone has to do something)
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mrsmillsfanclub · 22/03/2011 13:25

Thanks MissVerinder.

Dh has just gone out to get some stuff to make sandwiches with. This involved a 20 minutes conversation about differing loaves of bread (I said any type of loaf, which sent him into a state of confusion).
Im determined to go back to work tomorrow. Being ill is just not worth the hassle.

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