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Snoring

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Pennies · 15/03/2011 09:35

DH is a snorer. In a typical week I'd say that my sleep is disturbed about 3-4 times. Just recently he's had rhinitis and it's been worse than usual. Last night he woke me again and in my attempts to get him to roll over he woke up and took himself off to the spare room. This morning we're both feeling very grumpy and he says that he thinks I should move to the spare room if he wakes me whereas I think he should go, on the basis that why should I have to move when he's the one causing the problem. Also, as he disturbs me so often then by his logic I might as well take up permanent residence in the spare room, which isn't good for our relationship IMO.

There must be other MNers with prolific snorers. What do you do to get a good night's sleep?

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squeakytoy · 15/03/2011 09:36

earplugs :)

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TattyDevine · 15/03/2011 09:38

Earplugs. And dont say you wont hear the children because chances are you can't hear them over his snoring anyway Grin

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MillyR · 15/03/2011 09:38

I think there is some kind of nasal strip that you can put across the bridge of your nose to reduce snoring.

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nethunsreject · 15/03/2011 09:39

Earplugs don't work ime.

I'd be off to the spare room myself. Anything for kip.

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dreamingofsun · 15/03/2011 10:31

hoped you had a solution. he goes to spare room. i've been trying to get him to see a doctor but he won't go. his father's snoring is so bad it keeps me awake through the bedroom wall.

i don't like wearing earplugs

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MatchsticksForMyEyes · 15/03/2011 10:33

I have the same problem. Earplugs hurt my ears and the nasal strips don't work ime.

I sleep in the spare room with DS. DH and I haven't slept in the same bed for a year

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MillsAndDoom · 15/03/2011 10:34

Earplugs for you and nasal strips for him.

Is he overweight? DH has always snored but since he's put on weight its got much much worse

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MyMamaToldMe · 15/03/2011 10:48

We have tried everything (incl DH going for a sinus op). Nothing works except seperate bedrooms.

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MissVerinder · 15/03/2011 10:50

Spare room. Me and DP fall asleep together and if I wake up I migrate to the spare room; no point trying to get him to move!

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manfromCUK · 15/03/2011 10:51

Earplugs - DW (and her Mum) are loud snorers. I have been asking her to go to Docs but she won't. The worst thing is that it doesn't seem to affect her quailty of sleep but it does mine. I find earplugs too much every night so I take time off wearing 'em at the weekends.

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BettyCash · 15/03/2011 10:54

Nose strips

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spooktrain · 15/03/2011 11:00

I kick DH out if his snoring wakes me and I can't get back to sleep, and I must say he takes it on the chin. The one time I went onto the sofa he insisted that it should have been him to move and is always very apologetic.
so YANBU

(the nose strips didn't work for him)

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RunAwayWife · 15/03/2011 11:03

DH1 snores for England, he is a cub leader and has been known to keep a whole field awake bless him.

I now live half a mile away so it does not bother me anymore however that is drastic action.

The breath right strips do help

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TattyDevine · 15/03/2011 11:54

It depends what is causing the snoring as to whether anything will help.

When I was pregnant I snored because the extra progesterone causes your soft palate and various tissues to swell. No nasal strip would have helped that, it wasn't my nose causing it. (I did try them when it first started though)

However if your snoring is down to nasal congestion they may help.

Splints can be effective for the soft palate obstructional type snoring. I used this one

It would be worth seeing the doctor because they might have a solution for him. There is an OP you can have which for some people can be life changing. They basically thin down the back soft tissue that is slackening and causing the vibrating during sleep.

If he is overweight, losing weight helps. If he drinks alcohol, abstaining or cutting back can help. If none of those things, its probably a genetic thing and he's been blessed with a nice fleshy soft palate and a narrow enough airway for this to vibrate as he breathes.

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Sillyshell · 15/03/2011 12:37

So glad it's not just me and DH that end up sleeping in seperate rooms, makes me feel a lot better!

I've given up trying things to make him stop snoring, I now use earplugs and if it gets too bad I go next door.

Although on really bad nights, I can hear him through the wall!

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LifeIsButtercream · 15/03/2011 12:44

Deepest sympathy as ex-h was a snorer and it is hard going!

Ex-h wouldn't try most things but we tried the nasal strips although they didn't stick very well and would often migrate during the night, I woke up with one stuck to my bum once.......

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FabbyChic · 15/03/2011 12:47

But he is sleeping surely if you are awake you move? It's ridiculous for you both to be awake when in fact only you are awake.

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Happymm · 15/03/2011 12:47

Think the Victorians had it right-be together for a lovely bit of hubba hubba, then go separate ways to own bed for lovely bit of kip! :)

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dreamingofsun · 15/03/2011 12:50

i have even voluteered to widen his airways by putting my fist down it (after tossing and turning for several hours).

it also restricts where we can go on holidays as i can't bear the thought of 2 weeks with no sleep. guess others are the same.

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MumsieNonna · 15/03/2011 13:03

Go to your GP and ask to be referred to a Sleep Clinic. Snoring is bad for your health and can be dangerous. A C-PAP machine might help (or an electric cattle prod) Grin sleep apnoea

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 15/03/2011 13:05

yes snoring can be an indicator of health probs

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Zippylovesgeorge · 15/03/2011 13:14

The nose strips don't work and even the earplugs only blot out some of the noise.

We've just opted for seperate rooms :(

However when we're on hols we have to share and often he snores less then - odd really.

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inchoccyheaven · 15/03/2011 13:33

I am the snorer in this house ( well at the kids but they aren't as loud !) and have tried, the strips, mouth guards etc etc but non of it worked so we too have resorted to seperate rooms. I went into spare room first and then when I was very poorly I went back into our room ( proper double bed, spare has futon ) and dh went in spare room. It doesn't interfer with sex life as we go to bed at different times anyway as he gets up early for work and I work some evenings. I just go into him if we fancy it and then go back to my room after. To be honest I like having bed to myself now, well actually I don't as I usually end up with ds2 in it but he just gets in without me noticing so not really on my own. :o
When we go on holiday ( caravan) I make sure there are 3 bedrooms so we can still be seperate.
DH tried earplugs but couldn't get on with them and could still hear me sometimes anyway. I think he is quite a light sleeper which doesn't help.

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Politixmum · 15/03/2011 14:33

Glad it's not just me! I snore, and so does DD but not as loudly as me. I think maybe I am a bit overweight and also stressed at the mo, as I didn't snore when we first got together.
DP has been in his own space for years. Now he has it set up so nicely with computer/tv screen at eyelevel for the sofabed, I am not sure I will ever be able to lure him back to the double bed. Grin I miss him, however it's worth it for a while, so that at least one of us can sleep through. Five years of sleep deprivation with DD constantly appearing at my bedside took their toll on my temper, both of us being tired and grumpy would have led to living several hundred miles apart. Now that DD has got better am returning to my snoring problem. (No more late-night crisp fests. Sad)

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