I kinda know I'm probably being a bit unreasonable, but also kinda need to vent before I explode!
Ex recently visited for several days to spend time with almost-2yr-old DD.
At the risk of sounding like I'm having a rant about his parenting style - when DD would whine, winge, tantrum or generally play up ex-H would descend on her and shower her with attention/give in to what she was demanding.
Like all toddlers, DD does tend to 'have a moment' several times a day, I usually ignore her or try and distract her/encourage her to ask for something differently. I.e. if she starts shrieking 'APPLE JUICE! Errrr errr urhhh!' at me I will usually respond with: "Do you want your apple juice? What do you say?" - I usually get a calm "please" and she gets her apple juice or she gets ignored until she stops stropping. Usually she would ask for something 'nicely' and build up to a shrieking crescendo if not responded to promptly.
Since ex has left, DD has been going from zero-to-winge almost instantly, and whining for no apparent reason, or for things that aren't possible for me to provide, shrieking the same request over and over and over and over........ ("cakes.....cakes.....cakescakescakescakes....CAKESCAKESCAKESCAKESCAKES!"
I don't know if I'm handling this correctly, I'm just ignoring her until she calms down, getting up and walking away from her, or on one occasion putting her into the lounge from the kitchen and pulling the door to (she was safe) as I was close to losing it . She isn't 'warming up' any more - just going straight to whinging and demanding as it got her what she wanted when wonderful perfect Daddy was here....
For the record, whenever she is behaving/playing nicely I'm on her like a shot loading on the praise and attention, I'm a lone parent so I have no choice but to let her play by herself sometimes so I can do housework/prepare meals, but I do make time to play with her as much as I can so its not like she's on her own all the time and deprived of attention.
I know I'd be being unreasonable to expect a toddler to never whine, and I know toddlers have a tendancy to repeat the same thing over and over, but its just so striking that a week ago she was playing happily, behaving beautifully and now I can't get a thing done, and she has literally moaned at me for every waking moment today to the point of tears (mine).
Rant over! Thanks for listening as offloading on here has probably stopped me from offloading on my DD!
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LifeIsButtercream · 06/03/2011 16:46
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