To expect at least a little concern from DH?

[Happymm]

Had small op on Monday, all ok and was recovering slowly. PIL's being amazing with DC 's etc. On wednesday, came down with tummy bug-have been really ill with it. DH is a Dr-when phoned him at work Friday as shaky and in agony, was FFS go to the quack(GP) and get yourself sorted! Started vomiting again last night, asked him to at least check me over-gave tummy a poke and said you're fine, just take your anti sick pills. Have been up all night vomiting, all I got this am was 'alright?' Yes, fucking great thanks! Has now stropped out taking DC's swimming, which yes is great as house now peaceful. But AIBU to at least expect the common courtesy and compassion he'd show his patient's?

[DuelingFanjo]

did you go to your own doctor?

I guess he could be more sympathetic but perhaps as he's not your doctor he ot annoyed that you didn't seek advice elsewhere?

he should be more sympathetic as he's your husband. is he always like this?

[Happymm]

Yes went to GP-given antibiotics! His other comment last night was "you're not up the duff are you?" hell no, 3's enough for me! But yes, is often like this-seems more cross than anything if I get sick-though if he's sick, then oh, the drama!

[Gemsy83]

Sounds like men in general to be honest!

[SooooCynical]

My Mum is a nurse, my uncle is a Dr and they are thee most unsympathetic people when it comes to being ill. In fact as a child I suffered a cracked bone in my wrist, whilst she refused to take me to the Dr for three days, because my Mum said I was just being a Drama Queen!!(I was 12 at the time)

I think it's something to do with the medical professions. I think they become a bit desensitised to it and as long as you're no obviously dying then you're ok.

[Geistesabwesenheit]

You poor thing. D(?)H is like this if I dare to be ill. Have an un-MN hug ((())) and hope you feel better soon.

[Happymm]

Thanks all. Just waiting for the miserable lump to bring DC's home now. Have had a shower so bit brighter.:)

[Secretwishescometrue]

He is being very unkind but he's prob so used to seeing bits hanging off/falling out of people or people dying on him (just assuming, no idea what kind of doc he is) and he's had to desensatise (sp?) just to cope with it, i know thats no excuse for him not having a heart towards his own wife but i used to work as a health care assistant in an oncology ward and i am ashamed to admit i used to have trouble faking my concern for dh every time he stubed his toe/had a headache/runny nose which was just horrific of course... (i know your really sick and its diff) maybe your fella just needs a bit of a kick from the ol mil or fil no good you sayin much cause you'l only be given the moaning wife label by him but an "outsider" givin him a might make him realise he's being a bit of an arse not even giving ya a bit of sympathy and a good hug

[weegiemum]

This is quite cruel. My dh is a GP and (almost) always quite sympathetic - can be a bit of hand if he has been breaking bad news or had a patient die on him, or (had you thought of this) its almost end of year and all the QOF stuff will be starting to stress him out if he is a GP?

But you are his wife, he should be being nice to you, regardless of his job, if you are not well.

[YellowDinosaur]

I am a doctor.

We are not desensitised to this. I personally find it very very hard to be objective with my own family (the fact that you are actually not ALLOWED to treat your own family is because of precisely this) and unless it is something very straightforward I would ALWAYS advise dh to go to the GP or take my sons rather than presume I know what is going on. I would have done like he did and quickly prod your tummy to make sure it was soft which implies there probably isn't anything too immediately serious going on and then advised the same.

I think he hasn't been very sensitive to the fact that you feel like sh*t but I don't think the fact he is a doctor means he should be sympathetic - I think he should be sympathetic and give you a break because you are his wife and he loves you!

But I think advising you to go to the GP is actually the right advise - sorry.