to be a bit hurt and pissed off about this?

[pallymama]

Received a bitchy text message this morning from a "friend" I've not seen for a while.

When DH and I started saving for our wedding, and then when we bought our house, we didn't have the money to go out drinking every weekend. Then we had DD and had even less spare cash, and energy! A few times we invited people over to ours, but bit by bit our contact with our friends has withered away, to the an odd email or text here and there.

The last couple of times we've seen them has been instigated by us. None of them have children yet, so I understand that we are very much the odd ones out. I know that settling down and having children was our choice, and tbh, I probably should have made more of an effort to keep in touch, but we were only ever hearing from them when a night out was planned. This weekend we are without DD for the night, so we thought we'd make the most of it and go out. Text round to friends to say what we're planning with the offer of joining us if they're free, as it would be nice to catch up etc. Some can make it, some can't, everyone was friendly, except one, who replied this morning with a really bitchy text, saying I was out of order to ask after ditching my friends, and accusing me of trying to "waltz back into his life".

AIBU to be a bit hurt and pissed off about this?

[BooyFuckingHoo]

no yanbu. clearly he hasn't kept in touch with you if he is unaware of why you haven't been able to go out as often. he needs to get over himself.

[squeakytoy]

I would just reply "I take it thats a no then. Fine.".

[Quenelle]

YANBU I would be hurt and pissed off for a while - and then not give him another thought, ever.

[Hassled]

No, YANBU. But he clearly has a very different spin on events to you - he obviously thinks the drifting apart was a deliberate act on your part.
You could try to put him straight or you could just ignore and forget about him - I'd do the latter.

[ZillionChocolate]

I would now ditch him after that text message.

[ChickensHaveNoEyebrows]

Is he 12? I think I'd drop such a melodramamtic pillock, tbh.

[JaneS]

Wait up - this was a text.

Texts are notoriously difficult to read tone of voice in. Is there no chance this was a jokey message that came across wrongly? I can easily imagine writing 'Don't think you can just waltz back into my life' as a joke at the end of serious stuff about not seeing someone for ages.

I'd ask him to clarify, personally.

[pallymama]

Thank you all for your replies.
LittleRedDragon - no chance this was a joke, the whole message was a very spiteful rant.
ChickensHaveNoEyebrows - he's not 12 , but you're right, he has always been a bit dramatic.

I've been thinking about this all morning, going round in circles and unable to shake the feeling that I've somehow wronged him. Maybe he does think the drifting away was deliberate, but even so, his response was pretty harsh. I think I'll just try to shrug it off and forget about him. Thank you again :)

[curbyburr]

Text back: 'sent in error, was meant for a friend'
Let him stick that in his pipe and smoke it.