I work in an office environment and sit next to a young woman who is quite new to the company. most of the time we get on well, we have a laugh etc. but over the last couple of weeks i have started to feel really uncomfortable with some of the things she says to me. She found out that my DH is not 100% white and since then all i have had is ''does he eat with his hands'', ''i suppose you eat curry all the time'' ''does he know any good sari shops?'' . I should laugh it off i suppose as DH is a born and bred Northener! He is of mixed parentage. she mimics what she thinks his voice would be like but he has a northern accent - she does the stereotype Indian accent! Its really getting to me though and for the last 2 weeks i have come home from work really stressed by the end of the day. I have also been in tears on the way to work and i finish early most days when i can. I really dont need it right now as i am in the middle of some treatment for precancer and i am pretty stressed anyway, She also seems to actually enjoy upsetting me, i think thats the strangest part to me. she calls me old all the time, refers in a 'jokey' way to how 'old' i am and that my life is basically over because of this - I am not even 40 yet btw!! she calls me ''granny'' instead of by my name :)and yesterday i heard her tell someone else to call me it! It seems petty but i think the fact that she seems to get a real kick out of saying things to rile me is what is bothering me the most.she knew she had gone too far yesterday as i gave her an angry look she backtracked saying ''oh i have indian friends and they always eat lovely curry'' its laughable. She is the type that acts like she is stupid and so doesnt know what she said that was wrong, she presents this image of a young, naive girl but i think she has a really dodgy personality! Anyway, when i got home i thought to myself i actually need to do something about this cos its really stressing me. so am i being unreasonable to tell my Manager what is happening and asked to be moved? I dont feel as if i can have a go at her as she is so sneaky i feel she would turn it back on me.
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