to go on holiday?

[nonamesavalible]

I have been invited on a girls holiday later this year which would mean leaving my DCs 3yrs,2yrs,6mths with their dad for a week.
We are only going to a holiday park about 80miles away from home.

My problem is my mother is getting all shouty at me about it saying it's not fair to leave them for so long and it's not fair on my DH as it means he would need to take time of work (annual leave) to look after them.

My DH is fine about this and has encoraged me to go as he knows I haven't left them for more than 12 hours since I had them (youngest has never been left) and says I deserve the break.
He said that if I was a single parent he would have them half the school holidays and that would be longer than a week.

AIBU to go and leave them for a week?

[PeterAndreForPM]

YANBU

Your DH is their parent too

Tell your mother things have changed since her day, the daft old bat

[MorticiaAddams]

YANBU if you can do it. I can only handle two or three nights away from my family and I'm ready to come home.

[nonamesavalible]

LOL thats the thing I distinctly remember being left at my nans for 6weeks when I was three and was reguarly shipped off to my aunties for school holidays so she didn't have to deal with us.

Sorry about my spelling, DC's are running me in circles.

[Tortoiseonthehalfshell]

What a lovely husband you have! it shouldn't be rare that one recognises that you need a break, but I'm always happy to hear about it when it does happen. And i have to admit, solo for a week with a 3, a 2 and a 6 month is not for the fainthearted, man or woman.

Of course you're being reasonable. It's none of your mother's business. Do you usually let her shout at you about your day to day life when it doesn't affect her in the slightest?

[nonamesavalible]

I don't let her but it doesn't stop her unfortunatly

[maighdlin]

If you are being unreasonable i definitely am!!

last year i left my DD (10months at the time) for 10 days to go to vietnam with my sister. We are planning 10 days in china this september.
DH took the time off work and had a ball with her and my mum took her for two days and he saw his mates and played his games and after we had loads to talk about! For september DD will be old enough to enjoy more things. so whilst i am planning my adventures in china he is planning days at the zoo, aquarium, parks etc. I think my DH is more open to it as when he was younger his mum and sister went on holiday and he and his dad went somewhere else. Plus he dreams of being a SAHP with six kids.

[AlaskaHQ]

YANBU and your husband sounds lovely.

I have had two long weekends away since my babies (eldest is now 4, youngest 2), with Husband babysitting (& yes, taking a day off work to help) and really appreciated both of them.

[LadyThumb]

You go for it! He's their parent too, and sounds like a supportive, switched-on partner. Have a great time!

[kreecherlivesupstairs]

YANBU, you mother is though. If I had anyone to go with, I'd be off like a shot.
A couple of years ago, I had 5 days in Cambodia with a friend. That was easy, we lived in Thailand so it was an hours flight.
My DH goes to the far east every year to scuba dive and he would have no hesitation in looking after our DD if I decided I wanted a week away.
Go on holiday without a second though.

[Sarsaparilllla]

YANBU, your mum is being daft, your husband is as capable of looking after the kids as you are, go away, have a nice break and enjoy yourself

It's really nothing to do with your mum, I wouldn't be looking for her approval, just tell her that's what you're doing

[coatgate]

What a lovely husband you have. Mine isn't bad either - he frequently takes DD away on his own during the holidays, and also encourages me to go away with DD and he stays at home to look after my horse and my dog.

Have a lovely time,and just ignore your mum.