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My best friend and I have known each other for about 5 years, lived in the same city for a bit, but now live in different countries. As such, I don't see her that often, so I was really excited that she was coming over this weekend.
She has a new boyfriend, and I was looking forward to meeting him - she is a lovely person and I want to see her happy. But having spent a couple of days with them, I really do not like him at all.
I suppose I was a bit prejudiced from the start but hoping he'd prove me wrong. He is her first boyfriend, whereas he has just come out of a 15-year relationship - he split up with his ex to get together with my best friend. It all seems to have happened very quickly - met on the Tuesday, he split up with the ex by the Friday and moved city to be with my best friend 6 weeks later.
It did seem a bit but she told me how happy she was and I think I was supportive (met my partner when we both had other partners, so cannot get too judgemental about stuff).
But this weekend, I feel he has been really quite rude to me. They stayed for 2 nights in my room while I slept on the sofa and he didn't say thank you. We went to the supermarket and they chucked a lot of food into the trolley, then watched me pay for it. He hasn't paid for anything all weekend - in the beginning I didn't really think about it, but my best friend has paid for anything that I didn't buy. Everywhere we've gone in town, he has complained about. In fact, the only time he seems to talk is to reply negatively when my best friend asks him if he likes something, or to make comments about their sex life. He seems quite a quiet guy, and that's fine, I am quiet too sometimes, but we sat in a wine bar last night saying NOTHING because I just couldn't take any more sitting talking to my best friend while he looked on at us. The whole weekend, they walked 2 paces behind me and not really chatting, either to me or each other. Basically, I felt a bit left out and as if they were only using me to sleep for free at my house.
This is not behaviour I normally see in my best friend. She is one of the most considerate and caring people I know. But the whole weekend I felt uncomfortable and awkward and like she wasn't really here to see me, but more to spend time with him.
AIBU and childish? I know I am not always easy to get on with (have depression) but I really tried to make an effort to chat with this guy/take them nice places/offer them a room and after a bit I just couldn't make the effort any more.
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to not like my best friend's bf?
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squashycreech · 20/02/2011 23:20
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