to have decided to be a very laid back mum and therefore accept a few trips to A&E

[PrincessScrumpy]

I have dd1 (3) and I'm expecting twins so I've decided that the only way not to be over stressed is to be very laid back about everything but accept that this is likely to mean a few trips to A&E.

I only ever planned to have 2 dc - am delighted and feel blessed to be having id twins - but feel the potential to be stressed beyond belief is high. I know I need to be very organised - which I'm not.

Any other parenting advice? I know loads of people have 3 kids but it is rather daunting for dh and I!

[Flojo1979]

Least theres 2 of u!! I'm on my own with 2 and yes it can be very stressful at times but its only cos i am the one that makes it that way. As for the A&E thing???!!! I doubt being less stressy means they will be prone to more accidents, most accidents arent preventable really its just pot luck. I know myself how many near misses we've had! I am quite cautious with my kids but they my DS (5) just ran head long in to the wall at school and needed his forehead stitching, nowt u can do!
Try not to worry, once the lil ones r here you'll find your own way of coping. How exciting!!

[PrincessScrumpy]

Told DH he's not allowed to leave me with 3 kids - I think he's actually a bit scared!

[missmapp]

I'm very (possibly too) laid back and Dh is over anxious- between us we reach a happy medium!!

[stickchildrenthree]

I have dts (14 months) and dd1 (2.5) and am the most un-organised I have ever been but its the house not the dcs!

My advice would be to let go of the idea of having a tidy house for a while- I dispair some days but look at all 3 playing (usually in the clean laundry!) and just give in!

Enjoy it too, the first few months, although hard work, flew so quickly I can't quite believe the dts are toddlers already!

Honestly I don't think its as daunting as it seems when you're working out what to expect. Congratulations and good luck!

[Sassybeast]

What kind of trips to A & E are you anticipating ?

[weefriend]

Hospitals are a PITA and require huge amounts of organisation re other DCs if you end up having to stay in. I think it's actually easier if you can avoid it.

[excited1]

dragging 3 kids to hospital is a nightmare in itself.
when my eldest girl fell off her scooter and bashed all her face in and broke her thumb, i had her and youngest with me. eldest was out with mates.
youngest decided to faint in the hospital room, nurse scooped her up and laid her on the bed. i started cryin as i didnt know which of my kids to see to. the embarrassment was awful and i just wanted to run away

[twinterror]

Hi, not sure how being a laid-back mum equates to visits to A & E? I know plenty of laid back mums who don't spend their time down the hospital.

What is going to happen to your child that would neccessitate a visit to A & E by you being laid back?

I've no idea whether YABU as I don't understand the logic?

When I have had to take one of the DT's to A & E (most recently was 3 weeks ago when GP called an ambulance suspencting one of them had a serious illness), its not very laid back, its more trying to deal with one poorly child whilst looking after the other (even iwth DH helping several hours in the A & E often late at night are no joke). Plus if you go in an ambulance you've not got the car/car seats to get home again. You've normally not got the right food/drink/milk, they are tired and crotchety and so are you. I wouldn't include it in your plans tbh.

Why don't you aim to be a laid back parent who avoids the need to be in A&E where possible? Much more relaxing!

[Ormirian]

To be honest IME being a laidback mum results in fewer trips to A&E. If you are chilled, your DC tend to be chilled and chilled people don't seem to have as many accidents. And if they do just wipe away the blood, say 'never mind' and leave it at that. It's worked for me for 14 years

[GloriaSmut]

I was very laid back but it never occurred to me that this would result in more trips to A & E. If anything I think less since I didn't rush off to get medical help every time someone fell off a bike and scraped a knee.

[PrincessScrumpy]

dd is sooooo good and was never going through cupboards etc - I have a feeling I won't be so lucky this time and will find them climbing the curtains.

When dd was little I wouldn't leave the room without her but I really don't think that will be realistic so assume dts will probably climb and fall etc more than dd1.

[excited1]

ormirian - thats what i did when DD fell off the scooter. cleaned her face and knees up and sent her to bed with calpol. wasnt till i saw her thumb the next morning i thought it best to take her to hospital lol

[indiechick]

I honestly think it's about the children though, not you being laid back or not. My dd1 is seven, has never been to A&E, never so much as done more than a graze. DD2 has been twice already (she's nearly 3) and I anticipate more visits as she grows up. She has no fear and just doesn't care when I say be careful, stop jumping on the stairs etc. It's scary.

[nikki1978]

I have a 6 and 4 year old and so far neither of them has needed to go to the hospital. The laid back thing sounds like a good idea for twins though. But I mean laid back housework wise not letting them climb the bookshelves and break their legs relaxed

[twinterror]

Princess yes you cannot take then with you every time you leave the room (not sure why you would ever have done that even with one child), so you just make sure the room is safe and remove anything dangerous...sounds easier than planning regular hospital trips (view don't give nectar points for repeat visits)