To Want My XIL To Stop 'Correcting' DD's Grammar

[xstitch]

It is driving me bonkers. I have tried objecting but according to them I am being irrational and not capable of recognising correct grammar.

I admit I am not an expert but here are some examples of their corrections:

1. They want her to say 'I have tooked' instead of 'I have taken'
   
2. The plural of goose is gooses
   
3. Dashy things (apostrophes) are only used by idiots like Mummy.
   
4. Wurr instead or our.
   

There are more but I am too annoyed to type any more.

[Aims80]

I don't understand a word of that

[manicbmc]

seriously?

[Blatherskite]

Well, all their "corrections" are wrong so YANBU

[VerylazyBecsy]

they are wrong- sounds like they have a regional dialect- which is not bad in itself- but they should not be correcting your child's very correct grammar.

put them straight- tell them they will confuse your DD and that they are being VU.

[stoppingat2]

this is a wind up..clearly

[LoopyLiz88]

yanbu at all

[PaisleyLeaf]

Have you heard these corrections from them or your DD?
It sounds like a misunderstanding surely.

[fedupofnamechanging]

So, they are teaching her incorrect grammar?

I remember some of your other threads and I know you've had very bad luck with your ex and your ILs. My advice is to get a good solicitor to undo some of the restrictions you find yourself living under and get DD away from these people as soon as possible.

[xstitch]

I have Becsy :(. They say I need to stop speaking funny as it is me who is confusing her.

[Eglu]

Do they understand English at all? Seriously they talk crap. How old is your DD?

[xstitch]

No it is not a wind up. Some I have heard them say others I have been told by dd. I wish it was a wind up but this is kind of how my life tends to go.

altinkum tbh that is quite mild compared to their other attempts to undermine me. I am feeling particularly sensitive about the grammar issue tonight after the 'fun' I had with her reading book earlier.

[VerylazyBecsy]

ggrrrrrr i feel for you . hard one. i take it they have her unsupervised, can this be changed? at least if you could pull them up about it every time it happens they might at some point start to get the picture.

[manicbmc]

If they are being that unreasonable can you not make them go through court for a contact order?

[xstitch]

Tried to change it. Courts say I have to let them have unsupervised access. I am not giving up though, I suspect things may end up in court again.

[stoppingat2]

Which region you in? Wurr = scottish. Wor = Geordie!

[fedupofnamechanging]

I think you are being screwed over by the court system here, and in your position I would welcome going back to court. GPs who undermine the mother should not be having unsupervised access. Anyway, she's your child not theirs and I don't think they should be entitled to jack shit if you don't want it.

I really wish I was a solicitor so I could help you. Have you asked for help in Legal, cos there may be someone who can help you.

[VerylazyBecsy]

Could you just not let them have unsupervised access? I know this is v v controversial, but the courts aren't exactly going to anything about it??? what could they do? You could get one of those detective pens which have microphones and use it as evidence if it got back to the courts- dont know if this entirely legal either. i would though tbh.

[xstitch]

I'm in Scotland.

Unfortunately becsy they would take me back to court again and try and get full custody for XH with no access for me. They have done it once so they would do it again.

[VerylazyBecsy]

I would get the evidence that they are behaving inappropriately and some good legal advice. I don't see that they would have a leg to stand on. Every parent has the right to protect their child. Agree with karmabeliever completely.

[solooovely]

Why do you have to give the grandparents unsupervised access? That's unusual isn't it?