Would you prefer at wedding buffett hot sandwiches and chips or

[facechanginginthewind]

A finger buffett?.

And dp thinks im bu for suggesting that we only invite a few friends to the sit down wedding breakfast,he said if we cant invite all then none at allas its unfair.

I think its tough, but wwyd?.

[GeekCool]

We had bacon rolls, rolls & sausage and rolls & chips at out evening buffet, plus a platter or more traditional stuff for the older guests. Went down a treat.

You invite who you can, based on what you can afford to the sit down meal

[HecateQueenOfWitches]

I'd prefer a proper sit down meal, tbh.

But failing that, a proper buffet is probably better than hot sandwiches and chips.

Mind you, I read about a woman who ordered fish and chips from the local chippie for about 200 and everyone loved it!

Just throw some grub together and enjoy. People are there to celebrate your marriage. Food isn't so important.

[GwendolineMaryLacey]

My cousin recently got married and had a sit down meal. But for the evening reception she had hot dogs and burgers. I have never seen people sprint for the buffet tables so quickly!

[squeakytoy]

Greasy food that is hot, is always a bit risky... and also depends on the time of year you are having the wedding too.

For our wedding we didnt want a sit down meal either as our immediate family is very small but we have a lot of friends... so we just went straight from the ceremony to a late afternoon buffet, had a couple of hours of sitting around quietly chatting with low background music, and about 40 guests, who had been to the registry office (which only seated 40 so that settled the argument for numbers).. and then as the evening arrived so did evening guests.. and we had the buffet refreshed.

[EightiesChick]

How many people would you be paying for if you did invite them all?

[Starbear]

Your future DH is crackers all or nothing is a bit hard. Why not just have the family and Best man & Brides maids. Then you can have lovely weddind picture. I still have my Aunt's wedding photo which only has my Gran, Uncle's Brother & SIL, My Mum & Dad, Gran Aunt & Uncle in their 70's dress & suit and the kids. My sister was 2 years old and the most beautiful flower girl, I was gawk 12 so it doesn't count. Add a couple of best friends and you have your Wedding breakfast that won't break the bank and no body else will mind.

[Tillyscoutsmum]

We had a late afternoon ceremony, canapes and fizz whilst the photos were being taken and then straight to a hot buffet. It was mexican themed (fajitas, chilli con carne, nachos, potato wedges etc.).

I think I'd prefer a buffet rather than sandwiches and chips but is there any way you could stretch to a knife & fork buffet ? The best wedding food I think I've ever had was a friend who's dad was a butcher. They had whole hams, cold roast beef, a whole salmon and loads of lovely salads, fresh bread and a cheese board. It was lovely.

[GeekCool]

I think the OP is having a sit down meal, as she talks about the 'Wedding Breakfast' the hot/cold buffet is for the evening part. I think.

[curlymama]

I think hot sandwiches would be nicer than a finger buffet, as long as you have enough seating for everyone.

[squeakytoy]

Hot food that has been reheated or sat out too long is a lot riskier than cold buffet food. Its also usually a much more expensive option too, as you need people on hand to be doing the heating/cooking, whereas with a cold buffet you can either do it yourselves, or the catering company prepare it, refridgerate it, and serve it.

[GeekCool]

Not always Squeakytoy, our hot evening buffet was cheaper than a cold buffet, and included the catering company serving it up

[facechanginginthewind]

Geekcool your right its for a wedding breakfast,then do we have hot sandwiches or finger buffett in the evening?.

We would have 8 friends and their children 6, total 31 altogether with immediate family.

If we did not have friends it would be 17 altogther.

[WishIWasRimaHorton]

what do YOU want within the constraints of your budget? never mind what other people want.

FWIW we didn't do any food after our ceremony other than a few nibbles just to stop people who attended the ceremony from starving (but ceremony was at 2pm so we suggested they had lunch first). we then had a local curry house bring and serve a hot curry buffet for everyone in the evening.

i wouldn't care what other people think or would prefer. if you can't afford to feed everyone, send them a note with the invite saying there will be nothing to eat until the evening, so they might want to pick up a sandwich from (xyz) place near the venue before the ceremony.

[facechanginginthewind]

Starbear I am only having my dd as bridesmaid,best man is dp brother.

[sparkle12mar08]

One of the best weddings I've been to was a v v posh evening reception where bacon rolls were waitered round all evening. They were gorgeous and the kitchen got through hundreds upon hundreds of them. Was absolutely brilliant! So hot sandwiches are always a good choice for me :)

[annieapple2]

My auntie had Fish and chips as a wedding lunch for every one 30-40 people it was great fun. She wanted a cheap tasty sit down meal so that's what she got, it was very yummy, cheap and we all sat in the garden to eat it. She got a big discount as it was pre ordered and it was fun all walking down to get the them it really took the edge of the formal side of things for the kids. I think she had sandwiches in the evening to for other guests.
Personal I don't like cold buffet I would rather just have a table of cup cakes and biscuits and put 'no buffet (sorry) just cakes' on the invite. Its your day do what you want to.

[Ormirian]

Pig roast! DH's neice had one for her wedding and it was lovely. With rolls obviously for the pig to go in and salads. There were a few sniffy snobs who thought wedding should be more formal but no-one cared about them and we all ate loads

[facechanginginthewind]

Sparkle in the midst of which venue to choose this was the problem they had a hot buffett did not like the food on their posh menu,but they offered bacon rolls for everyone instead, was not sure if a good idea or not.

[JaneS]

Mmm, either sounds nice! I'd love chips at a wedding - everyone is usually quite hungry by the time you get to food. Make sure you think what to do for veggies though.

[tyler80]

I'd go for hot sandwiches, especially if they're brought round to people sitting, they've done this in the evening at a couple of weddings we've been too and it was really good. Seems so much nicer than queuing for a cold buffet. I don't have a problem with the food, I just hate the queuing part.

[Ingles2]

We got married in Devon so had picnic baskets with Cornish pasties and cream teas etc then fish and chips in the evening.
don't worry about convention or what other people think, do what you want.

[PaperView]

What would you (and DP) like to eat?

[startail]

Compromise! - Write a guest list for the number of people you can afford to do a really nice knife and fork Buffet for.
Quiche, salad cold meat, hot chicken legs, baked spuds, chilli (easy to do for veggies), sausage rolls, Chinese or Indian party bits.
(Adjust to budget, taste, ease of keeping things hot, time of year, age of guests and their children. Proper pudding (super market pavlova and cheese cake is fine) and TEA OR COFFEE!!! Weddings can be very long tiring days for you and you guests

We were students when we married and budget, and venue meant we did a cold version of the above, with everyone just sitting where they liked seemed to go down ok.

Formal sit-down meals in cramped hot hotels in high summer esp. with children (or husbands forced to dissect whole baby chickens)are hell.
(One brilliant couple understood this and provided age appropriate colouring and small toys for the children in a cool marble town hall with space at end for the children to go and use them quietly while the adults talked and their cake was a little chocolate cake each which DD's still remember. However I dread to think what the budget was)