I have a sort of delicate situation.
Last year, a friend of mine said she and her DH were going to TTC. They've had a rocky relationship, friend is nearing 40 and has all sorts of health problems which make conceiving quite difficult. They have also gone for periods of up to 2 years without sex and have been on verge of splitting up a few times.
But friend seemed quite certain they'd agreed to TTC and was asking me about all the charting I'd done and I told her about the fertility monitor I'd used. It's basically just a BBT thermometer with an alarm and recorder on it, but it cost me £40 new and I was taking temps much more reliably with it than with a regular thermometer. I offered to lend it to her and she said she'd try it.
I think it was about a year ago I gave it to her and since then all mention of them TTC has stopped, the sex is non-existent, and they are having the same squabbles as before. Realistically the window is probably closing for them and given what I know of their history together I just can't see them ever having a child together (not that I've said this to her obviously).
Now DH and I have agreed to try for DC2, and I'd really like to start charting again. I've tried with a regular thermometer and just can't get back in the hang of it again.
Would it be very unreasonable of me to ask for the monitor back from my friend, or is it going to come across as 'hey, quit kidding yourself, you're not ever going to have a child!'?
Fuck. It probably is unreasonable, isn't it. I really really don't want to rub our TTC in her face. I'm out £40, aren't I? I suppose the friendship is worth it though.
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YankNCock · 14/02/2011 20:22
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