I am going for an op next month, along with DH. My amazingly wonderful mother is taking my DC for the first two weeks whilst I recover (honestly I cannot reiterate how much I adore my mum, as a friend as well as her being my mum).
I will be home three days post op. DH will be in a week at least, if not two weeks. My mum is worried about me being at home alone, and has asked me to stay with her, specifically so she keep an eye on me, whilst she looks after my children (told you my mum was fabulous).
Personally I see benefits and negatives in both. I will recover in peace if at home, but will miss the children terribly. Plus my mum is being very insistent that she doesn't want me in my own house post op.
But there is the issue of my younger sister. She is still living with my mum and step dad (she is mid 20s) and not really working. I don't get involved as it is none of my business. However, my Dsis treats my mum and step father appallingly. She speaks to them in a very rude and derogatory manner and is always belittling them and calling them names. Bearing in mind Sis is living pretty much rent free and they do a lot for her (as they do for me, just in different ways).
I have gotten involved in the past to defend my mum, but then mum gets upset at the arguing, so I have kept out of it for many years. However, my main concern is that if I stay at my mums house I will have to sit and endure seeing my mum treated like that, plus the children will see it too and I don't want to encourage that type of behaviour.
My mum is aware of my sisters attitude and knows that sis will probably have the same attitude towards me after a couple of days of me being there, so my mum has suggested kicking sister out to her boyfriends for the time period, but I don't think this will go down well with Sis, and I don't want my mum to deal with the backlash (although my mum seemed quite keen on the idea).
I would like to stay really, so I can see the children but don't want to cause more hassle generally. More of a WWYD, but is it unreasonable to ask her to temporarily leave? (she does stay at her boyfriends every weekend anyway). I think it is UR, my mum on the other hand doesn't.
[disclaimer: my sister has very nice qualities too, but she just has a very bad attitude, especially when tired or grumpy].
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ReindeerBollocks · 11/02/2011 22:49
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