I possibly ABU but I feel really fed up and want to have a moan really.
DH calls me at work today to say he's flat out at work, lots of new work has come in and he's got to work all tomorrow. Fair enough, he has a very busy job, has to work long hours and while it's not ideal I understand. But, it is a bit of a bugger - we had various things planned with the DCs tomorrow and it'll be a lot more work with one pair of (adult) hands. DC are just 3 and almost 1.
Then early evening I'm back home giving kids their dinner, call DH to see what time he'll be back i.e. should I wait for him or eat with the kids. He says he's going out to a leaving do at work. I'm a bit annoyed because (a) he hasn't mentioned it before (and despite him saying he's worked with this guy for a long time he has never mentioned the man's name to me before so I can't believe they're that close) (b) he's already going to be missing half the weekend with the DC and he hardly sees them during the week (half hour in the morning generally) (c) I spend quite a lot of evenings on my own at home as it is and really look forward to sort of celebrating the start of the weekend with him. Anyway I was bit grumpy about it but he says he will be back by 9 etc.
Then, inevitably, he texts later to say 'can he stay out a bit longer?', this is followed up by a call. So, I made it clear that I think it's a bit rubbish (and why) but that I'm not his mum and he can decide for himself whether or not to stay out. But I find it so irritating. He will I guarantee come back really late and then be hungover tomorrow, which seems daft to me when he's telling me how incredibly snowed under he is at work.
Plus it just annoys me that I"m the default setting for childcare. Because he knows I'll be back here to look after the DC in the evenings (and I don't begrudge that, I love putting them to bed etc) he doesn't bother to tell me when he's going out until minutes before. As you've probably gathered, this has happened before
Grrrrr. Go on then, AIBU?
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aliceinlalaland · 11/02/2011 21:26
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