New to mumsnet and was advised to come on here by my health visitor who has seen how down I have been beyond the regular hormonal imbalance emotions. I dont want to sound inconsiderate to my inlaws at all, as I want to live in harmony with them, but it is getting harder and harder each day!!
I am a first time mum to a new son who is not yet 3weeks old. I had an emergency section bringing him into the world and as a result my recovery is more prolonged than had I had a vaginal birth (which is what I wanted!! )
Since I have come home, the inlaws are expecting to be around every hour of every day and it took me getting upset for my partner to finally ask them to go.
When we are visiting, they are all over him (even when sleeping) and it almost feels like when my back is turned they would poke him to wake him up so they can hold him.
They question everything I do, from infracol to breastfeeding (asking me already to express so they can feed him)!!
I am just finding my feet as a new mother and I already have ideas and signs of what my son needs and wants are, and I feel like I am constantly being under pressure to let them do things. Bearing in mind they dont want to do anything for me (like help around house etc) which would be more of a help than them smothering my son.
They make comments about what he wears and question who its from and recently on hearing an outfit was from someone on their side, I was met with "oh I am surprised at that".
The MIL even asked a friend of hers to teach MY son english when he is older!!! I will teach my own son proper vocabulary, I am not an idiot!!
I am getting really down about the whole thing, and so much so I resent going to visit them as I cannot relax and the only time I get rest bite is when me and my son go away for a feed which is glorious!!!
I feel I cannot say anything as it might be taken as rude or cheeky, and i dont want to appear that way, but am finding it more and more difficult to bite my tongue!
I dont want to upset my partner but it is becoming increasingly hard and I feel my whole existence is walking on egg shells, not able to say anything with regards to the wellfare of my son as it will be scoffed at!!
I am also increasingly worried about handing my son over in the future to be babysat by them as they will not listen to my wishes and will do their own thing!! It is a horrible situation and I am blooming miserable at that!!
Thank you in advance xx
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Katzia85 · 17/01/2011 15:33
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