dh and live in cramped, damp conditions with our ds. After scrimping and scraping we are now in a position to buy a bigger home. We can't wait to start our family life together in a lovely home. Two younger close family members are, frankly, shite with money. I've bailed them out on numerous occasions and offered one a home which caused a lot of probs with nonpayment of anything and disregard for property. The younger one is living in pretty dire conditions but pays minimal rent, free bills & groceries etc. She knew the situation before moving there but now understandably doesnt like it. She is atrocious with money and i'm not the only family member who's offered assistance. This time around i feel as tho i want to be selfish and enjoy our new home after a really miserable couple of yeas. I've offered practical support re jobsearch, accommadation etc but i know that everyone is expecting that we will give her a home. I know from experience that even offering a temporary place would discourage her from finding her own place and would not encourage her to save etc. I also know that money burns big holes in her pockets and she loves to shop and party. what should i do? I feel so mean but at the same time it's really taking the shine off of our new home and we don't feel able to talk openly about our plans. What is a cause for celebration has now become the elephant in the room! Namechanged cos feel like heel.
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