DS2 is 8. I separated from his dad before he was born, all amicable, both moved on, has always had and wanted contact has always paid maintenance.
My issue is this; Every Christmas and birthday he is given a separate load of presents which he is not allowed to bring home with him . Today he returned with one small gift that he was allowed to choose to bring home here. He spends two weekends a month with his dad and stepmum and his 3 yr old brother is then allowed to play with his toys when DS2 isn't there. I feel this is a massive waste of money as he only gets to play with these things twice a month and I feel that its really unfair to my son who is being given gifts which aren't really his.
To top this his paternal grandmother also does the same, insisting he keeps her gifts at her house, when he rarely sees her.
I can understand this with large things such a a bike but I bought my elder two a DS this year and DS2 already had been given one at his dads so I was reluctant to buy another one - eventually DS2 went on about it and phoned his dad about it so much he was allowed to bring it here and takes it with him when he goes back.
They do the same with clothes. He doesn't take anything I offer with DS2, just the clothes he is in and then he stands at the door on a Sunday night while he waits for DS2 to change out of the clothes he has been given so he can take them back to his. Today DS2 was panicking as he still had a pair of trainers and a (Christmas) jumper on from his dads that he has forgotten to take off.
Its getting to the point now where I feel its a) unhealthy and b) upsetting my DS2 and I wonder if AIBU to say something....?
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