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AIBU?

aibu to wonder why

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stoppinchingthedummy · 02/01/2011 16:14

my 12 year old brother had about £1000 spent on him for xmas and i had about £30?!!

Ok i am 27 and have 2 dc of my own and no its not about presents but my mum said she couldnt afford xmas due to outstanding debts ...this is fine BUT my brother has had a top of the range laptop as well as loads of other expensive things while i had a couple of bits?!!

Ok dont slate me but aibu to think she cant afford xmas for me and my dc but my brother gets loads?!!

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TheMonster · 02/01/2011 16:15

YANBU to wonder why she spent so much on him, but YABU to feel jealous of a child when you are an adult.

lifeinagoldfishbowl · 02/01/2011 16:15

Because you're 27 and have your own children and because he is still a child?

BooBooGlass · 02/01/2011 16:15

He is a child. You are not. YABU.
But £1000 sounds increbidly excessive. Be grateful you had £30 spent on you. I had nothing from my parents who are more than able to afford it.

Gemsy83 · 02/01/2011 16:16

Maybe she bought it on the never never...and 12 year olds should really get more than 27 year olds to be honest..

stoppinchingthedummy · 02/01/2011 16:17

ok thanks

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stoppinchingthedummy · 02/01/2011 16:18

Oh and yea i should be greatful i got anything.

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classydiva · 02/01/2011 16:19

He is 12, you are older, much older.

My youngest had 700 my eldest 70. The eldest does not need anything and did not want anything, in fact he went home with only one of his presents, left the rest as he wouldn't wear it, it didn't fit, and the aftershave reminded him of his dad.

Chil1234 · 02/01/2011 16:19

YANBU.... Doesn't matter how old children are or what the age-gap is, conspicuous favouritism is always going to stick in the throat.

Jackstini · 02/01/2011 16:21

You don't mention what your dc got?
I would not expect much once grown up and left home, me and Mum do spend about 30 on each other but she buys the kids stuff too.

sue52 · 02/01/2011 16:21

My parents stopped buying anything more than token presents for my siblings and I when we started work. I spend more on my 15 year old than I do on my elder daughter who is in her twenties, working and has left home. I think that is the norm in most households, so YABU>

stoppinchingthedummy · 02/01/2011 16:22

oh just to add i have 2 sisters aswell and we have never ever had loads spent on us at xmas by my mum - my brother went to his dads for xmas and only got back yesterday so had lots there too - actually i think i started this thread all wrong and infact its not i only got £30 and he had expensive pressies its that she has had no money all over xmas for anything and is in major debt but still managed to find money for a top of the range laptop

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stoppinchingthedummy · 02/01/2011 16:22

Jackstini - a selection box and some pj's each

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classydiva · 02/01/2011 16:24

At 12 he would need a laptop for his school studies you cannot really moan about him having something he seriously needs to complete his education.

Why not ask her how she managed it as she told you she was skint, its clearly on the never never.

stoppinchingthedummy · 02/01/2011 16:27

Classy diva its not for school and i wont ask her because i dont want to make her feel shit i just asked because i was trying to work out if im reasonable to wonder - and its not on a credit card - she cant get credit so ive no idea where its come from - i suppose its a little resentment and it lies much deeper than this .sorry i started this now can i remove it??

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Actuallawyer · 02/01/2011 16:27

A 12 year old does not need a top of the range laptop. Hardly anyone does.

However your mum is old enough to manage her money, leave her to it.

stoppinchingthedummy · 02/01/2011 16:29

actuallawyer- you would think so eh

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thumbwitch · 02/01/2011 16:32

YABU to mind that more was spent on him than you; but YANBU to wonder how the hell she managed to find £1000 to spend on him when she has loads of debts etc.

You can try reporting your own first post to MNHQ and asking them to remove it but I doubt they will as they don't tend to unless for a very good reason. If you don't want to read any more replies, just Hide the thread. :)

stoppinchingthedummy · 02/01/2011 16:33

Thanks thumbwitch

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charliesmommy · 02/01/2011 16:34

no kid needs a laptop costing £1000.. and it seems a stupid thing to buy when you are struggling financially already..

sue52 · 02/01/2011 16:35

stoppinchingthedummy You are quite reasonable to worry about your Mother getting into debt. Could you talk to her about it? Sorry I had a bit of a dig at you before.

Ladyofthehousespeaking · 02/01/2011 16:37

You are 27.

stoppinchingthedummy · 02/01/2011 16:48

Sue52- its ok - ladyofthehousespeaking yes thats right

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