Ok... It's new years eve, we have a dd who is 13 months old and we have no babysitters here... I also have ds (11)...
We both have full time work and neither is standard 9-5, mine involves interviewing people as and when available and I have 3 to do tomorrow lunchtime onwards... Dh was on shift this morning but has tomorrow off and has been to the pub after work getting home around half six... Dd went down at 7 and I ordered in pizza, ds is watching tv on his room... Dh had wine before his pizza but is clearly pee'd off that he isn't going out. One of his mates called, asking if hd was going out and he said a couple of times 'no I can't'... Since then he has been moaning that it's do boring at home, that he might ad well go to bed etc,..
He then asked if I was going to wake dd at midnight, I said no as it could take ages to get her back down and that I thought it wasn't the usual thong to wake babies for new year...
He has stropped off upstairs saying I am so boring and that if he told people what I had just said that they wouldn't believe it... And that he can't get pissed as he has to watch the kids in the morning (from 11:30!) and that if he told people that he had to do that they wouldn't believe it either!
I've said to him we could play something On the wii, or a board game, or watch a movie... He says no, but doesn't suggest anything else!
Am I being boring? Aibu to need him to look after dd tomorrow for a couple of hours as it's new years day? Or is he being a twat?
AIBU?
Aibu to think my dh is being a twat?
notremotelyintofootie · 31/12/2010 21:44
You are not boring.
He is being a man-child and a bit of an arse.
It's his children too, if his mates raise an eyebrow at 'looking after your own children while your wife goes to work' perhaps he could get some adult male friends 
Feel free to show him my response. My dh has just asked why all the mumsnet threads he sees are women married to teenage boys.
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i think your dh is confusing being "boring" with an adult's responsibilities esp. when you have a family (i.e. functioning in a position of responsibility and not still drunk whilst looking after a minor, fulfiling your work comitments, etc)
it sounds like he's unhappy with the current setup (maybe just a mood thing or longer term - only you will know that) and he's trying to project you as being the bad person despite the fact that he knows you both have comitments that you need to meet
i also think that even if he is unhappy about staying in, etc - it's a bit over the top to suggest that no one would believe in you not waking a baby at midnight 
of course i wouldn't wake the little one, they need their rest and they don't miss these things at all anyway. For whose benefit does he want to disturb DCs? In all honesty, it's the adults.
finally "Aibu to need him to look after dd tomorrow for a couple of hours as it's new years day?" - aren't they his children? why would he resent you needing him to take care of his own children? it's hardly doing you a favour, is it! Unless you're swanning off to a luxury day spa, you're working! If he has a problem with this setup, you have much bigger problems than him accusing you of being boring.
In summary, your husband sounds like he's being an utter twat. Feel free to show him this thread, because unless i'm massively mistaken, i don't think many other MNers are going to contradict me on this one.
No your being perfectly reasonable.
He is just trying to provoke a row so he has an excuse to storm off out or you get so fed up with his tantrum that you just tell him to go.
Oh and by the way, it would be insane to wake up a 13 month old for new years.. is he serious?? 
my dp did this the first year we were together (though to be fair he's not ds's dad, and we had no other dcs at that stage)
I said "oh, go on, go out" not for one minute thinking that he would
...he did. And I don't think it's too much of a stretch to think that that set the bar for all our future years of joint childrearing/ NYE celebrations
(I am in right now with the dds- sole topic of conversation- Littlest Pet Shop- while he's swanned off to some fancy do)
I'd say: don't give in 
notremotelyintofootie your DH sounds like a baby-throwing his toys out of his pram by going to bed? Honestly!
I'd tell him to get a grip and I'd most definitely wake him at midnight with a vuvuzela or equivalent noise making instrumentand shout HAPPY NEW YEAR DARLIN
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