to actually hate my partner working away so much on the rigs?

[GoogleAddict]

Apparently I am totally unreasonable. But to look at it from my point of view:

We have 3 kids, one is only 12 months old and still wakes up 3 hourly during the night so it is hard work, especially when he literally vanishes for weeks on end at about an hours notice. So yeah, sometimes I get sick of it.

Is that so wrong??

[TrillianAstra]

Not unreasonable to hate it, but presumably this is the job he did when you decided to have those 3 children so you decided that having a baby with him working away a lot was better than not having the baby.

[kenobi]

A friend of mine's DH works on rigs doing 6-week stints. She has a DS, and had a major accident, lost the sight in one eye and has agonising nerve damage in her face. And he still had to keep going because there's bugger-all work for him round their neck of the woods.
It sucks and I feel for you, but unless there's something out there for him that pays better, it's not really his fault.
< hugs > .

[TattyDevine]

Sorry this is unhelpful but he does sound really macho!!!

[backwardpossom]

I think that's partly why men on the rigs tend to be so well paid. YANBU to miss him, but sadly it's part of the job.

[whensteaready]

Hi Googleaddict, I dont feel yabu, even if you knew what his job entailed before having kids makes things really different.I know this is no real comparison but my DH works really long hours and I can find it really hard but at least I know he will eventually come home.
I hope he is home for christmas?

[onceamai]

YANBU. Mine are nearly 16 and 12. DH works in Europe and comes home at weekends. His flight got cancelled this weekend and he couldn't get home. It's hard enought at this stage -and rarely for more than a fortnight. You are doing a really tough job and I hope things get easier and that you have a lovely Christmas.

[Spidermama]

My dh is an actor and has been on a world tour for the past year and a half. He's here half the time and gone the rest. His work has always taken him away for spells, some of them very poorly paid.

I've kind of adjusted to be honest. He came back a week ago for Christmas and there's always a period of transition while we all re-adjust the family dynamic.

When he's away I have a massive workload and it is relentless and overwhelming sometimes BUT I like the regular money, I like being the domestic boss and being efficient and, oh yes did I mention the money?

It is tough, I admit but it has its advantages. If, for you, the advantages are badly outweighed by the disadvantages, then you ought to talk to him about some kind of change.