to expect DH to get a pressie for toddler DD to give to me for Christmas?

[iwilldothis]

Last year at Christmas I got a small gift for DD (then 10 months) to give to DH. I think he was touched by it and a bit embarrassed that he hadn't done the same for me. This year I have done the same again but I just know he once again hasn't thought of it. AIBU to be a bit peeved by this? Should I stop getting him these little gifts from DD? Should I drop some more hints about it so he remembers this year? Or am I just being petty and greedy and juvenile?

[scurryfunge]

I don't think gifts have to be reciprocated. You give because you want to give.

[NinkyNonker]

I've done it for him from baby DD, I very much doubt he has, not fussed. If you have to remind him then surely the sentiment is lost?

[theevildead2]

It's nice for DD to learn (even though she is only little!) about giving as well as receiving so don't stop doing it yourself. DH will remeber next year if he hasn't this year. Don't drop hints for gifts though. That's never cool

[borderslass]

I never got anything off my kids until they where old enough to go themselves, it's a man thing[not all of them] they don't think.

[hillyhilly]

We tried this but I am pretty sure we have both forgotten this year (else I am in for an embarrassing Christmas morning!) While I think its a lovely gesture it simply would not occur to my DH who finds buying gifts traumatic enough without adding complication!
If you really want him to do it then tell him that your LO has bought him something this year, its not worth getting upset over.

[MrsGetoutClaus]

Buy something for yourself, wrap it, label it as from DD and let her give it to you. She gets to give you something and you get something you really want. Take the money from the joint account and then DH, without even knowing it, has contributed.

[seeker]

Dance round the room with the baby this evening singing a song to her about Christmas, adding "And I can't wait to see what you've got Mummy for Christmas - you are such a clever gorl, I know you will have done your shopping by now.....

[CristinaTheAstonishing]

It never crossed my mind to give DH something on behalf of the kids. What's the point? When they are old enough they can choose their own presents.

[thumbplumpuddingwitch]

YANBU - but you are a bit hopeful if you think it will happen without prompting.

I have something for MIL from DS but nothing for DH specifically from DS this year, although I could make one of his presents from DS, it would be easy enough.

Last year, I did stockings for all of us - me, DH, DS (2) - I did my own, of course, because I knew DH never would have! Mentioned it to him this year, but I just know I'll have to do my own again. Ah well, at least I know I'll be getting something I want!

[mumblechum]

What Christina said.

It just sounds really artificial to me.

DS bought me presents out of his own money when he was old enough to choose something.

[Quenelle]

Damn. Have forgotten to get DH something from DS. Thought I'd finished my shopping.

[Feelingsensitive]

I do this but DH doesn't. It wouldn't even cross his mind TBH. Don't worry about it.

[orangina]

Dh has always bought me presents from the kids (and with them when they are old enough to know what it's all about). Christmas, birthday and mothers day. And I do the same for dh....

I think it's wierd that he doesn't, and I'd be really hurt if he didn't think about it....

(maybe it's me that's odd..... )

[create]

I buy a bag of bits from Boots and give it to DH to wrap with the DC for me. If I don't he checks the bathroom to see what I "like", but of course the things left in the bathroom are the things I haven't used...

[Ormirian]

I wouldn't do this TBH. Until your child becomes old enough to choose something for her dad it's empty really. Wait until she can go and choose something with you, or make some delightful treasure for him

[RockinRobinBird]

DH absolutely wouldn't think of this in a fit and tbh, till I read your op, neither had I. Life is too short and recipients too many to go inventing them. When DD is old enough to empty her money box and go shopping herself then I might enjoy a token something. Until then it's pointless.

[SeaTrek]

I don't think you are being petty or juvenile. You just have different expectations from your DH.

Personally I would think it faintly ridiculous for DH to buy me something from DS but then I only really do 'children and charity' at Christmas. Thankfully he feels the same so there is never an issue. We do gifts for each other for Birthdays and father's/mother's day though.

[EricNorthpolesChristmas]

YABU really. It's kind of a sweet gesture but also kind of pointless. Presumably he will get you something himself and a token present 'from the toddler' is just an extra gift from him really. I wouldn't expect this. Wait til your DC is old enough to be helped to make/choose gifts for you, much more meaningful.

[mangoandlime]

A bit silly, an empty sentiment at such a young age.

DS1 will spend his pocket money this year on something from the local shop, I don't care if it's a tube of Smarties wrapped up, he chose it and it came from the heart.

[Quenelle]

Reminds me of DH when he was little. The first time he bought his Dad a Christmas present he just matched the price on the shelf ticket with the amount of pocket money he had.

The shop was Boots and the present he ended up buying his dad was disposable pants. Bless.

[theyoungvisiter]

I get DH something for father's day and he helps the kids make something for me for mother's day, but I certainly wouldn't buy something "from" the kids at Christmas, not until they were old enough to do it themselves.

It seems weird and fake to me - and totally pointless to boot!