First time I've ever posted on AIBU so please be gentle with me!
DS is coming up to a year old - birthday in a week or so's time. My parents (who were away on hols abroad when he was born early) have been fairly hands off as grandparents. When they got back from hols, I trekked into london on train (5 days post c-section) so they could see him before they took the train home back north (to be fair, this was my idea as I just thought they'd be so upset to have missed out on seeing him when he was little). They have livestock, and it was grotty weather, so it was a month after that that they got to see him again.
I have been firming up who is coming to DS' birthday party tea and have just been told count us out, bad weather, animals need looking after etc. (But when they are off on hols again just after christmas, animals are being looked after, so I can't see why they can't do this now?). I tried really hard not to be OTT about it, but I did point out that his birthday is always going to be in dec, so they're going to miss out on all his b-day parties if this is the case. I just feel so sad that they don't seem to want to be a part of events like this. (My dad did say its not as if DS will remember,which is true).
We've had a difficult time this year, and they have been very supportive, but they seem to be saying because they have been supportive, they don't need to come down to be with us on important days.
We are trekking up there for christmas, and part of me wants to retaliate and say we're not going (which I know would be v immature and would probably hurt us the most).
Am I being completely unreasonable to be a bit hurt? (I should add that we are generally a close family, so it's not as we would normally only see them once a year).
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Finns · 06/12/2010 07:55
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