To think this doesn't constitute 'Sunday lunch'

[Doobies]

I probably am but am so starving hungry and pissed off I don't care....

Myself, dh and ds eight months visited dh's brother and his wife today. They normally come to us as they have been renovating their house (it's all completed now) and I always cook a Sunday roast. They live a good hour and half drive away so I think its appropriate to have a nice meal ready for them.

Anyway, they invited us over and said they would cook Sunday lunch which I assumed would be a roast dinner type of thing and ds could pick bits of it. It took us two hours to get there and when we arrived finally at three this is what was waiting for us:

2 mini quiches between the four adults

A bowl of bagged salad leaves

Four slices of ham and four sticks of cheese

A French stick

And, I kid you not, a turkey burger thing cut into four pieces.

There was nothing there that ds could eat because he has a dairy intolerance.

I could have cried. I was sooooo hungry and there was barely enough to go round. Am I expecting too much? They have invited us again in a month but I don't think I can bear it....

Tell me to get a life. I think I have low blood sugar....

[gapbear]

YADNBU

Jeez, they sound odd. I could happily trough that little lot all on my own. Although that possibly says as much about me as your bizarre in-laws...

[parakeet]

Get a life you ingrate.

If your son has a dairy intolerance you should have checked what they'd be serving beforehand. And couldn't you have asked them for some extra bread for him?

[masochismTangoer]

There was nothing there that ds could eat because he has a dairy intolerance.

If they knew that - why on earth did they not cater for it or explain that they could not so you could bring food.

Very rude - could of least of warned you what they had planned.

[Fernie3]

It is odd maybe they forgot you were coming?

[kreecherlivesupstairs]

I am so hungry at the moment, I would have eaten that lot in three bites.
I do agree with parakeet, you should have checked that there would have been something for DS, but YADNBU to think it doesn't constitute a proper Sunday lunch.

[WhereYouLeftIt]

Well, did you say anything to them as they served this up?

[hocuspontas]

To be fair not everyone has a roast for Sunday lunch. But agree there didn't seem a lot to go round.

[KangarooCaught]

Weird - did they not twig?

[DuelingFanio]

SOunds ok to me to be honest.

[MistsAndMellow]

Horrified at quartered turkey burger "thing" as well as the rest of it.

YANBU, the nutters.

[MisSalLaneous]

Sounds odd. Could they by any chance have forgotten about it?

We once invited friends to join us for the day and lunch whilst camping, and somehow crossed wires (our mistake) as to whether we'd have lunch together before we left home. As we thought we'd just meet for a nice afternoon together, we thought we'd not bother with food at all and have breakfasts and early dinners at the pub when alone. We realised our mistake too late and there was no time to get anything, so we could only offer them one cup of coffee each and some bread and cheese! To this day, no-one has mentioned anything and we're still great friends, but they must have wondered what on earth was up with us.

Maybe give them another try, but take some provisions for an impromptu picnic along the way home in case. Ds don't have to know - you could just pretend you are uber cool parents living an exciting life!

[southeastastra]

dear lord

[Trebuchet]

yanbu esspecially as you've been cooking for them. I'd be embarrassed serving that up

[maktaitai]

I have to say, a lot of people without children or whose children have grown up are absolutely clueless about feeding small ones, I know I was (and possibly still am).

Don't really see why your ds couldn't have had some ham and French bread?

Possibly they are hinting that they don't like eating huge meals when they come to yours?

But yes, YADNBU, that wasn't enough.

[MoonUnitAlpha]

YANBU - that is very odd!

Half a mini quiche, a slice of ham, a stick of cheese and some bread is a summer lunch for a toddler, not a winter Sunday lunch for a fully grown adult.

[SparkleSoiree]

The first thing that came to my mind was that they may be seriously short of money!

[Doobies]

To be fair, it didn't really matter about ds because I bf him anyway. I just feel fucked off because whenever they've been to our house I've told them that I'm making Sunday lunch which is always a roast dinner so when they said the same to us we assumed it would be a roast too iyswim.

[MisSalLaneous]

Everything in there sounds like fridge back-ups, I'm convinced they must have forgotten and didn't know how to own up.

[FakePlasticTrees]

Maybe next time suggest eating out?

[MaureenMLove]

Oh, I feel your pain!

MIL always does a buffet style lunch, which is perfectly fine, that's what they like to eat and we have been going there for 20 years, so we make sure we have big breakfast and something easily cooked when we get home, in case of emergency!

However, she choses the oddest things to put together! Like goats cheese flan and Findas pancakes!

[Doobies]

Sparkle they are not short of money. The grub was from M + S no less.

Good quality just not enough of it....

[magicmummy1]

I have had similar served up by a friend - didn't really bother me tbh. I went to see her and her family, not for the food!

[Greythorne]

I think YAB a bit Unreasonable.

Lots of people (read us) don't ever eat a traditional roast on Sunday, so you can't expect to eat exactly what you would have at home.

Also, you need to have a back up plan for your DS at all times. People might serve stuff that even if you're doing BLW would just not be suitable for an 8 month old.... Anything with nuts for example or even honey roast parsnips or Thai Green curry. Best to have breadsticks or bread, fruit, vegetable batons (cucumber / pepper) to hand in case of emergency / delays for your DS. When travelling, I would cook a handful of tortellini for the DC as they can be eaten cold, are portable and not too messy.

But it does sound like overall there was not much food to go round and they had not made much effort. So I would be a bit ticked off, too.

[Lougle]

DH, myself, and my 3 children went to have Boxing Day dinner with the in-laws, DH's brother and an uncle last year. They used left-overs from the day before. Not a big issue, really.

But, the potatoes were dished up and they had forgotten about the 3 girls. I had to ask if there were any spare.

The vegetables amounted to 1 tbsp of sweetcorn each, and 1 and a half brussel sprouts for the adults, with only half a brussel sprout for the children!!

Tiny portion of meat.

It was shocking. I had to put my hand up to my chin to keep my jaw in place.

6 adults, 3 children and 11 brussel sprouts!!

[Doobies]

They had been to M+S that morning to get the food in. It's not really the food but the principal of it. We live in Woodford in Essex and they live in surrey and they know it can take ages to get there with the traffic.

I was really disappointed