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AIBU?

to think that they can get what they are given and be bloody grateful

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bogie · 15/11/2010 10:27

Christmas dinner... was planning, Soup to start then Turkey, roasties, parsnip and mustard mash, brussells, stuffing, pigs in blankets and carrot ribbons with honey and parsly then christmas pud or chocolate triffle (cheese board in the evening)..... I am cooking for 15!! with 3 under 5's wanting to open and play with all their presents.... and now SIL and her DP have decided that this is not good enough because sil's dp doesn't like parsnip or brussels so I will need to do mash potato and a tin of sweetcorn for him and her 2yo ds, now I only have a small oven and a small kitchen, I have planned it all and now I am getting pissed off, if they were going to a resturant they couldn't say oh and you will have to change your menu because my 26 year old boyfriend doesn't like it so cook sweetcorn and mash aswell. Angry

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JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 15/11/2010 10:29

YANBU, as if you needed to ask! Grin

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Eglu · 15/11/2010 10:29

I think they can manage and not eat the parsnip and sprouts. Or they can bugger off and eat dinner somewhere else.

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boudoiricca · 15/11/2010 10:30

"tis the season to be jolly fa-la-la-la-la"

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NordicPrincess · 15/11/2010 10:30

you are not being unreasonable, you cook what you like, it its not to their tastes then they eat elsewhere

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Chil1234 · 15/11/2010 10:31

YANBU.... if he doesn't have actual allergies or something then he's displaying incredibly bad manners.

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StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 15/11/2010 10:32

If he doesn't like the parsnip and mustard mash, he can eat roasties, and if he doesn't eat brussels sprouts, he can eat the carrot ribbons. Same goes for the two-year old.

Tell them that cooking for 15 on a small domestic cooker is quite stressful enough without having to accomodate such demanding rudeness!

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JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 15/11/2010 10:33

You could leave a packet of Smash and a tin of the Jolly Green Giant's finest at his place setting I suppose, with directions to the kettle and the microwave Grin

What kind of (NT) adult only eats mash and sweetcorn though, ffs?

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catinthehat2 · 15/11/2010 10:34

I do not understand why you are sharing your menu with anybody at this stage, you are inviting trouble.

Surely you could have said in reponse to questions "no idea, not decided yet, it's way too early"

If sil's dp doesn't like parsnip or brussels then don't serve the brussels or parsnip mash on the plate. Why would you offer an alterantive - your plates will be laded.

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catinthehat2 · 15/11/2010 10:34

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BuntyPenfold · 15/11/2010 10:34

Your menu sounds great and your guests are ungrateful. Though why you went into detail with them I don't know, maybe just presenting the food on the day would prevent arguments?

Sweetcorn out of a tin - how old is he? Are you sure you hadn't better do him chicken nuggets as well?

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AMumInScotland · 15/11/2010 10:35

They don't have to eat the parsnips and sprouts if they don't like them. But very rude to tell you to cook something extra just because they're fussy. They can have meat and roasties and carrots - perfectly good meal!

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angelbabe1982 · 15/11/2010 10:35

YANBU

but can I come to your house please - sounds yummy?

It is rude for them to say that, I second Jenai's suggestion :o

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Pseudo341 · 15/11/2010 10:36

Sounds fantastic, when should I arrive

I have a mix of awkward and allergic relatives and everyone just eats what they can, avoids what they can't, and is extremely appreciative of my efforts. sil's dp can have carrot ribbons and roasties and be grateful.

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IneedacleanerIamalazyslattern · 15/11/2010 10:37

YANBU I had this last year shopping with MIL...Oooh we will need to get this as well because SIL DH doesn't like that and ooh he doesn't like this so we will add that as well.
I was the one doing all the bloody cooking spent all bloody day doing it for them all to turn up late Angry so they were in the door jackets off and sat down to eat straight away as everything was ready.

You (and I always do as well) have plenty of food choices available for them to avoid what they don't like and have something else, if it is that important they can bring mash and sweetcorn.

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bogie · 15/11/2010 10:37

catinthehat only shared menu with MIL because she was asking if she could help prep anything, sil was listening in and has text me saying that.
He dp is nice but just will not try any foods he won't eat anything green and he every sunday we hav edinner at mil's and she has to have mash yorkshire puds and sweetcorn otherwise sil and dp have a hissy fit.

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Pseudo341 · 15/11/2010 10:37

Apparently I can't find the question mark
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oh there it is!

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Niecie · 15/11/2010 10:38

YANBU - you're cooking you get to call the shots.

BUT I don't like brussel sprouts or parsnips (like a far few people don't) so you are a bit light of veggies, especially as the carrots aren't just carrot.

Could you not bunge a tin of sweetcorn in the microwave for 2 minutes? Just because it is Christmas and the season of goodwill and all that?

Don't bother with the mash though, that is a faff and you already have mash on the menu and roasties so that would be potato overload and a step too far.

Or just tell them to bog off.Grin

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Niecie · 15/11/2010 10:38

'fair few..' not far.

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5DollarShake · 15/11/2010 10:39

What is wrong with people???!! When did good manners become so passé? Shock

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abr1de · 15/11/2010 10:39

YANBU.

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sethstarkaddersmum · 15/11/2010 10:39

they can bring their own mash and sweetcorn. In a wide-necked thermos so you don't have them getting the way in the kitchen trying to heat it up.

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SparkleSoiree · 15/11/2010 10:40

I decide on my menu and serve it up. If people choose not to eat certain things on the table that is their choice but if they are looking for a tailored menu then they need to book into a restaurant and pay for it!

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SparkleSoiree · 15/11/2010 10:40

I obviously take into consideration allergies etc!

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ClaireDeLoon · 15/11/2010 10:40

YANBU and agree with 5DollarShake what has happened to basic nice manners?

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brass · 15/11/2010 10:41

YANBU they could bring the mash and sweetcorn with them. Rude of them to demand it.

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