I believe children just as adults should have freedom of choice. Little girls wear jeans and dress up at playtime as soldiers, policemen, firemen etc so why is it such a problem for boys to wear tutu's dresses, fairy outfits etc? there is too much genderisation of toys and play outfits.
Rather than let girls be girls and boys be boys why can't CHILDREN BE CHILDREN?
DS2 wore a tutu and wings for halloween and has been invited to a fancy dress party next week and has asked to go as a fairy.
I don't have a problem with this but what is the general opinion on it?
I have been told I am happy to allow it as I must have an underlying want to have a daughter - I don't, I just believe in freedom of choice and allowing a child to be a child and express themselves.
AIBU?
Ok, I would like MNtters opinions on this...
TheLadyEvenstar · 10/11/2010 20:13
Pinkie, DS2 has just got into the stage of really picking what he wants to wear. He looked a treat on halloween in his skeleton outfit, purple and black tutu and wings 
I am buying him a white set of wings and a tutu for the party he will wear them with some more boyish style clothes as i think putting him in a skirt is a bit ott although white leggings could work lol
LOL. I am assuming you mean your 3 year old and not your 12 year old 
(looked at your profile)
I think it is fine. A few weeks ago my 3 year old DS would have been happy to go anywhere as a fairy - he is going to a fancy dress party this Saturday and I listed what he can go as - BUT apparently he says he cannot go as a fairy or a nurse as that is for girls and he is a boy! I really don't know where that has come from. He is going as a fire fighter now 
Sure he did - I see no problem with it at all - DD has a thing for an old fishing hat. I think most people won't bat an eyelid
My DS wears the fairy wings and carries the wand my mum bought for DD. DD adores Fireman Sam and I have no doubt would wear the costume if we had one!
There was a great thread on here last week with a link to a mum's blog where her little boy dressed as Daphne from Scooby Doo- can't find it I'm afraid- but it made the same good point you are making that it was his choice, and the attitude of anyone else was irrelevant.
If it helps it is not necessarily a traditionally female role- Puck from Midsummer Night's Dream was male, wasn't he? If anyone comments you can always say your DS is very influenced by Shakespeare .
O'dear soldiers police firemen etc are unisex careers jeans are unisex clothes tutu's fairy outfits are girls, leotards and wizard outfits are boys vacuum cleaners cooker etc are fine everybody should be familiar with them. Just because you... have an underlying desire for a little girl do not inflict it on MY GOD SON cut his hair. Children can't be children when they are influenced by what the perents buy them, think of the problems you will cause when he's a teenager walking down the High St in a tutu and long blond curls he won't last long.
That is the message DS2's god father (63 yrs old) left me
Piccies of DS2 on halloween on my profile now because I love them
I am sure that I have read somewhere (bit vague I know) that pink used to be considered a good colour for boys as it was seen as vibrant and energetic and blue was a girls' colour as it was calmer. Let DS2 wear what he wants (and DS's long hair has been a bone of contention with my in-laws for some time...maybe why I left it for so long before going to the hairdressers )
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