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AIBU?

to be really irritated biy MIL

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blushingm · 09/11/2010 11:53

she is conatnly telling me how she has gone ott on the grandchildren this year and that she has spent over £250 each (there are 3) and how she's told her friends and they think she has spent way too much.

She knows me and dh are struggling and haven't spent as much on our 2 dc. I feel like she's trying to make out that she is so much better than us.

what does she want me to say when she keeps on and on about it???

and also no one is ever as ill/tired/sore/skint/hard done by etc etc as she is - if you say you're tired she is more tired as she has been working, you've got a sore throat she has tonsilitis, you've had a chest infection she's got suspected pneumonia

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MaryBS · 09/11/2010 11:55

Tell her you have syphilis? Wink

Maybe she feels the need to spend, so your kids aren't "hard done by". Or like my MIL, she pumps the kids full of treats to show she loves them Not a very helpful attitude, either way!

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bonfireblue · 09/11/2010 11:59

It's lovely (and pretty normal) of her to want to spoil her grandchildren. Where she's gone wrong is in telling everyone about it! You don't give a gift and then tell the recipient how much it cost Hmm

Sounds like she is waiting for a display of undying gratitude from you and a wealth of attention and praise from her friends.

I would just say "wow, that was very generous of you. I won't say what we have spent if you don't mind.......after all we all know it's the thought that counts"

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poorbuthappy · 09/11/2010 12:01

It could be worse...my sister's MIL goes round telling everyone that she is buying xyz for the grandkids...she tells the grandkids exactly what she is going to buy (not just at birthdays and xmas either) and then doesn't buy anything!

Its got the point that people they know come up to them and say ooooo your nan bought your golf clubs for your birthday didn't she! Isn't she a good nan...

For years the kids would stand there confused, but now they're older they turn round and say, no, she said she was going to buy them but didn't!
happy families all round then Hmm

Sorry not helpful I know...but some people just seem to like people knowing how much they do/spend on other people!

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ChaoticAngel · 09/11/2010 12:45

YANBU

It would irritate me to have someone going on about how much they spent. Your mil chose to spend that amount (I'll assume you don't put a gun to her head WinkGrin).

On the hypochondriac bit my late ex mil was like that too. I learnt to let it wash over me.

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misskaur08 · 09/11/2010 13:03

Sounds like she wants attention. My Mil does a lot of this too.
If shes giving gifts all the time and you dont like it, give them back. She will soon stop.

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