My Husband is Dutch, and we had agreed that his Mum (who speaks no English, and my Dutch is limited)and one other person could come to visit 3 weeks after the birth for a long weekend , as that would be DH's last week off, and he could take them out, and generally look after them. (Normally 6-8 people all come over together and expect to be waited on hand and foot)
Well now his sister has just rang and wants to book flights as she wants to come for a few days and then swap with his brother so their Mum can stay a bit longer maybe a week -FFS! AND she wanted to be here for their equivilant of Christmas day (6th December, St Nicholas day when they give their gifts)
I bit my tongue, and I said that it wouldn't be possible to guarentee the dates as if the baby came early (Due 19th November) DH would be back at work, and as the baby could come as late as the 4th of December so I would not be ready to have guests, even family at that point.
She said "Oh I understand completely...can you get him to call me as we want to book our flights tomorrow"!!!!!
Was I speaking completely to myself?????
So I said " As much as I would love to say please come then, I need to be rational, and I don't think its a good idea for you to book flights as you may have to cancel them and that would be a waste of money"
"Of course! May be he can arrange to take that week off fixed as Holiday then regardless of whether the baby is early or late, we can come. How many days are you in hospital?"
At that point I gave up and said "I'll get him to call you tomorrow evening when he is back. from his trip"
I understand that they want to make plans, but am I being completely selfish not to want to A) be landed with his guests without DH being here or B) Have guests arrive too soon after the birth?
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To put off in-laws booking trip from the Netherlands until the baby actually arrives?
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Andie20521 · 02/11/2010 23:26
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