I am a nanny and I recently cared for two children (10 months and 6) Friday 6am - Saturday 10am when their grandparents took over.
I am the only babysitter this family have that they can leave the baby with as I've minded them since he was 3 months and he isn't used to anyone else. He is v.fussy atm and cries even if strangers speak to him while he's in the pram etc.
Initally their parents quivelled about my rate - which I preemptively reduced because I know they are tight with money and wanted to avoid any awkwardness.
I offered, my hourly rate from 6am (when I turned up to find the mother still in her PJs - thanks for making me get up at 5 and then not leaving for 45 minutes!) until the little girl went to sleep at 8:30pm. And 40 quid overnight And then hourly rate 6am (when the baby was supposed to wake) until 10am.
I thought this was quite reasonable - they weren't very happy apparently but reluctantly agreed. Keep in mind they were going for a long weekend away to a five star hotel to gamble and shop! I arrived to find an A4 typed page of jobs ranging from batch cooking, ironing (kids only) to refilling ALL bottles for grandmother's start (which I would've done anyway as a courtesy but TBH seemed a little over the top as I'm sure the grandmother could have refilled 1 or 2 bottles if need be)...
Anyhow, the baby apparent sleeps through all night on every occasion. Well, not on this occasion. Woke 5-6 times. Fed, cuddled etc. Told the mother on the phone the next morning when she called - of course no mention of compensation, an apology or even commiseration for my being up all night. "Ohhhh, he hasn't done that in ages..."
Then the grandfather arrived to take the little girl to her swimming lesson, and said their grandmother would be arriving at 10am to relieve me (I stay home with the baby while they go to swimming). The baby starts screaming hysterically as soon as the grandfather comes in. The mother had previously told me he hadn't had much to do with the grandparents, but it would be fine. It clearly wasn't fine - he was absolutely distraught until the grandfather handed him back to me after insisting he should hold "misery guts". So after the little girl and grandfather left, I called Mum to say I was a bit concerned as baby obviously didn't settle the whole 20 minutes the grandfather was there and would only stop crying when I held him. Was back to happy, smiling self the minute he left.
I offered to have him for the day - take him round to do my jobs etc and just bring him back and put him to bed. I would have thought the Mother would be extremely grateful for the offer, considering her baby was obviously distressed being held / around someone he didn't know. Obviously completely her choice to accept or not but no word of thanks were offered only a curt, "No - it'll be fine.. Ok, bye".
The grandmother then arrives, cue hysterical crying from the baby when she steps through the door through to when I gather up my stuff to leave. As I close the front door she is holding him at arms length and he has his arms outstretched in my direction, becoming increasingly more red and out of breath.
I don't think I'll babysit for them again because I am a bit resentful about the pay and tbh - it makes me sad and this incident has really confirmed for me, they don't seem to have the best interests of their children at heart (all the time)..
So AIBU to refuse all future work? Or am I overreacting?
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to not babysit for these people again?
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smupcakes · 02/11/2010 12:42
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