I'm trying to take a break from the relationship as they're all fairly toxic but I keep being drawn back in by events like birthdays etc. There's been some big issues and for the last two years, they live about a mile away and never see my DCs. Recently my DS1 was in a serious car accident, fortunately he turned out to be completely fine but it was a very worrying few days. My parents popped round for half an hour to see the children once the drama was over but my sister didn't and none of the rest of the family expressed any concern.
Despite the fact the the relationship is totally screwed up they insist on sending presents and pretending to the wider world that everything is fine. I find this a bit mental, I don't understand why, when I never see/speak to my sister does we still do this charade of present buying, it just seems so disingenuous to me and I'm really tempted to just stop it. Although if I'm the one to stop it then it makes me look like the bad guy, which is the myth they're putting out to the extended family and wider world anyway.
I just hate the falsness and lack of honesty, it makes me want to pick a huge fight just to get it all out in the open but I don't want to be petty about it.
So do I just call it quits and stop bothering? And they will probably still bother with the kids at Christmas no matter what. It sounds a bit daft but all this present obligation stuff is really holding us back.
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bintofbohemia · 02/11/2010 10:21
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