Lol at my grammar and spelling, Its not usually great, coupled with extreme tiredness last night it was far from perfect was it?!
We cope perfectly with our children, I have a lot of support from my children's school, health visitors, Doctors, childminders, home start etc.
My husband would like another child, we have the space, financial stability and a loving environment to bring another child into. Our two eldest would love for me to have another(baby mad!) and I have always wanted to have a large family.
These are my biggest issue?s, I will explain how I have coped previously when pregnant. My bipolar is under control, my biggest concern is that I would have to have all my medication changed round(I think) as I?m pretty sure the medication would be unsafe in pregnancy. I am worried that it might make my Bp unstable.
My disability is a funny one! Well not funny ha-ha but interesting. I have a problem with my knees and hips, joint, ligament, tendon, cartridge etc tis not nice. I am in a lot of pain a lot of the time, and have been for many years. I am on serious pain medication which would have to stop during pregnancy and change. I know I would be in agony for the amount of weeks I would carry, but having done this three times before I know I can deal with it.
I have had post natal depression with all three children, With Jaimee it was nasty but I was able to cope, my Bipolar had not been diagnosed back then. When I had Lewis the PND was horrendous, there were a lot of external influences which added to it I?m sure, some of you will be aware if you have read my previous posts, and I had to go into a mother and baby unit for a few weeks with Lewis and was put under an amazing peri natal psychiatrist. When I found out I was expecting Amelia I was terrified. She wasn?t planned and after what I had been through with Lou it was absolutely petrifying. My consultant referred me back to the peri natal team whilst I was pregnant, so if the PND did strike again they would be on hand. It did return, back with a vengeance due to the fact she was premature, but I went to see the peri natal psychiatrist days after she was born and she sorted my medication out and I got through it. Had I not been referred whilst pregnant I would have had to wait months for an appointment.I have no doubt in my mind if we did have another child they would do this again. I know that the psychiatrist would adapt my medication to suit.
With regards to my disability when I have been pregnant before it has been agonising but I?ve coped. Again there is no doubt in my mind that my consultants again would do everything they could to re arrange my medication.
The ability to cope does worry me but we have coped well with our children previously so maybe its not a valid worry?
My husband and I have sat and discussed this endlessly and come up with a plan, of sorts! The idea is, when little one starts school in January we go and see ALL my consultants, the peri natal team, midwifes etc and see what they think. See if we can realistically have another child, medication and illness wise.See if they will adjust my medication BEFORE we start trying and maybe see how I/we cope for a few months.
We?ve also decided to talk to the neonatal doctors and see if there is anything we can do to prevent or make things easier if the baby were to be premature. My biggest ask would be if they would give me steroids I guess. All three children have been ?lucky?, I have gone into labour at 24 weeks with all of them, which have been successfully stopped BUT each time I?ve been given steroids. When we had Amelia the neonatal paediatrician told us that the steroids I was given helped greatly, he said if I had been given them when I was admitted(when I had her at 30weeks) they wouldn?t have really helped. As it was, being given them at 24weeks and having them swimming around her system for 6weeks enabled her to be able to breathe unaided and feed.
I guess, well I know what the issue is. I am terrified of them telling me no, you can?t have another child. I do feel very unreasonable as we are very blessed with our children.
Amelia was a twin, and we lost her brother early in the pregnancy so maybe that is making this burning need fire up even more so. Maybe that's making me want to do something now rather than waiting. Maybe I just want to know if we can?
Heracles-I do realise how blessed we are, and I enjoy my children very much, each and every day. So no, I am not unreasonable in that respect.
Onceamai-If I were to be to ill after the birth my husband, his parents, my friends and the rest of our support network would look after them.
?But if you are providing a balanced, loving, secure and stable environment for your existing 3, and have done so between you with these 'conditions' already in place then, apart from the prem baby issue, of which I have no experience, then I can see no reason why not ?
I think the premature thing is the one that scares me the most. We?ve coped beautiful without any impact on our children and I can give plenty of for and against reasons on every other aspect.
Sorry for such a rambling long post.
And Hedge blunder-Hmmm I am lonely I guess, when the children are at school, little one is at nursery, hubby is at work I don?t have a lot to do. We have a cleaner who does the housework, so I don?t have to do that, we have an ironing lady, so again nothing for me to do there. The only time I feel normal is when we are together as a family, which with school and work is far and few hours between. Maybe I should get a dog!
Thanks for all your posts and opinion's, I am very grateful to you all for taking time out to add your thoughts x